Epiphany Tiffany

"When it comes to criticism, there's no right or wrong. It's only a conflict between your choices and their judgments." -Tiffany Bales Have you ever felt upset or even hurt when someone who cares about you totally disagrees with you by criticizing you? Like, you say or do something that you are totally passionate about but get shut down like a twenty-four-hour power outage. And it seems as if that fire inside you is attempting to be put out, but by someone you love.  That totally stings right?  Yet somehow we do the same thing to others and aren't even realizing it. We are hurting the ones we love with criticism when all we think we are doing is trying to help. So there it is,  help ; that kind and effortless to the other person word. But there's a fine line between genuinely caring and criticizing. So how far does our willingness to help others end up burning ourselves and others out? Maybe that's the true issue at hand. Maybe trying to help only ...

"Don't downgrade your dream just to match your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny." - John Assaraf Resist the irresistible. And differentiate the impersonators. Evade from deception.  And absorb in all motivation.  Always be the inspiration. And never let the fear of rejection stop you from asking the question. Allow actions to define true perceptions. And don’t worry about what you can’t control, it’s not within your obligation. Allow yourself to always follow your heart. But do it gracefully and by being smart.  And always believe in yourself, No matter what type of cards you are dealt. Don’t ever underestimate,  always overcompensate. Just be who you are. Keep smiling even when you feel torn apart. And by all means when you love, do it with your entire heart.  Be kind and have compassion. You never know who you can help when you care about people in that kind of fashion.  Strive for success....

"There would be a lot less ghosting if there was a lot less bullshitting"  -Unknown. This happens to everyone. You put yourself out there and get shut down. Which should be a positive right? As it’s better to know than to not know, or left wondering. But people now days don’t seem to have the decency to even respond. Leaving you left on read. Ask yourself how many times this has happened in this modern day and age. Probably a lot more than you’d actually think. Further discussion about this topic with my girlfriends, only carried on more gossip about this undeniable subject. Making me realize that this does actually happen more than we think. But why does it sting when it happens to us? Because in contrary, we are also doing it ourselves. So it only made me want to look further into the reasoning and the why. Because it’s just what I do. Turning a negative into a positive is my best trait and well, I’m going to do that for you wonderers that can’t fathom just why someone...

"The problem with assumptions is that we believe they are the truth" - Don Miguel Ruiz Assumption. There it is. That damn word. Why do we assume anyways? Is it because of the lack of truth behind what we are told? That the evaded truth gets replaced by our own assumptions, because we have no proof of what it actually is? Leaving us to only place assumptions for the lack of confirmations. And what if our very own assumptions aren’t even true? Yet we still find some type of belief in those? Then what? We are faced with security? With no doubt? With pure happiness and joy? I beg to differ. Because when we assume, usually it’s not in a positive aspect. Because if we have to assume anything, it's only because the truth wasn't granted, leaving us to author our very own. Because as the definition itself states. An assumption is only accepted as truth without any proof behind it. So how can we truly rely on our assumptions? Truth without proof. It’s like relying on the l...

“True love cannot be found where it does not exist, nor can it be denied where it does” -Torquato Tasso  Is love like gold? And how do you know whether or not its real or fake? Do you have to fall in and out of it to see the realness of it in the end? Or do you have to be  Not fooled by it  to figure it out? Besides what even differentiates real love and fake love anyway? Because unlike gold, there isn't a nitric acid test for love. Are we even in real love anyway? Because I truly feel like we aren't thanks to settling. And what really saddens me is that I have noticed so many people in these fake relationships that aren’t even happy or in love anymore, and are getting divorced and plain out mean to their “lovers” too much lately. What happened to that closeness? Is it completely gone? Does it even truly exist anymore? Sometimes I find myself wondering that. And that’s what worries me because I want to believe that it does. But it’s looking awful to society, because in re...

I'm totally over it. But I wasn't today. Maybe something inside, made me feel this way. I thought I was happy,  maybe I'm not. How did I get here?  I thought I forgot. Thanks to my conscious, I can never forget. All that it takes, is something simple to make our memories, begin again. Maybe it's wanting to feel something real. Taking me back, to the way you  made me feel. Or maybe seeing you,  brought on these retakes. I don't know what it is about you thats making me feel this way.  Cause the flashes start to replay, inside of my head. I can't even think of one moment of sadness during the times that we spent. Bringing more tears, As I try to switch off my thoughts. I can't even turn them off, by taking a shot. But the gin helps the pain start to go away. Although the memories of you linger inside of my brain. Instead of fighting them off, I let them take me back. With tears in my eyes,  I still smile and laugh. Gosh I can g...

"One poem, three subjects, one woman"  - Harsh Truth. Your love was as strong as the pine-sol on the dirty floor. Leaving you felt like walking barefoot on holy water as I got closer to the door. I couldn’t even clean up the mess with our very own mop or broom, Instead I just ran like hell leaving every single thing there inside of our room. And I didn't even look back, I knew if I did you would try to get me to come back, And there was nothing left inside me to let you retract. Because I did my time, By doing what I thought was genuinely right. So when I got out I knew that I had to follow my heart, Turns out both of those things only left me alone in the dark. Yet I still permitted an old flame to be re-lit, That I now only repent for allowing it. I guess the true love that I thought was real turned out to be a sin, Now she has you so I guess she wins. But the truth is that nobody wins. Not you, not me, not her or him. I’d rather be told the harsh truth t...

"Nothing is forever, forever is a lie. All we have is what's between hello and goodbye." - Marilyn Bergman If you had the chance to have a last word with someone, what would you say? I don't hate you, I'm sorry, or maybe even I love you, and goodbye? So it had me thinking. When people are in our lives, we never really know when we will say our last words to them. So if we had the chance to actually say something because we actually knew it would be the last thing we would say, what would it be? Would it be how they made us feel? Or would it be the anger they brought out of us? Would we all be able to let go and forgive better because we have prior notice and confirmation of last words to them? We are all in moments and time with people in our lives and somehow they make an impact on us. I mean you can’t choose what happens, nor what the outcome will be when they aren't. That's just life. People move on, some have you there to conquer a plan, some love y...