Left On Read
"There would be a lot less ghosting if there was a lot less bullshitting"
-Unknown.
This happens to everyone. You put yourself out there and get shut down. Which should be a positive right? As it’s better to know than to not know, or left wondering. But people now days don’t seem to have the decency to even respond. Leaving you left on read. Ask yourself how many times this has happened in this modern day and age. Probably a lot more than you’d actually think. Further discussion about this topic with my girlfriends, only carried on more gossip about this undeniable subject. Making me realize that this does actually happen more than we think. But why does it sting when it happens to us? Because in contrary, we are also doing it ourselves. So it only made me want to look further into the reasoning and the why. Because it’s just what I do. Turning a negative into a positive is my best trait and well, I’m going to do that for you wonderers that can’t fathom just why someone would dare leave your hot sweet ass on read. But they do, and you do it too.
First off all no you’re probably not getting ghosted. But if you are, it’s because you deserve it. Or they don’t deserve you. It can only go either of which way. Even you my sweet darling have done this before probably more than you even realize it. Leaving others left on read without even knowing it. Think about it. Your friend told you they texted you last week, and you totally forgot because you thought you responded. Turns out you only responded to them in your damn head. Oh yeah! Duh! That happens all the time. Gosh we are badass humans aren’t we? Working our asses off all day and some even nights. We just get tired. It’s not personal. Trust me, I do this a lot. I turn my phone on silent and go to bed leaving people on read or even on unread for days. But it isn’t a vicious tech attack at ya, it’s simply because we are not in the mood to talk or even respond. I think it’s better when it takes time, because time takes thought. Have you ever been angry and thrown up that anger with words? But you don’t even remember what you said. Well, think of no response in that aspect. Because when we’re tired, talk is cheap. Honestly, there’s only so many “how are yous” and “blah blah blahs” we can handle in one day. I mean not all people are on their phones every second. Even if we get the notification, haven’t you seen some people’s home screens with those red numbers all over the damn place? Well it’s exactly what it is, and some of us don’t have that type of OCD, so we keep those red dots everywhere on our phone all the time, yes get over it. We forget that this device in our hand is so much more than just a communication device. It’s the world at our fingertips. We technically have the capability to message ANYONE, yes even Tom Brady. So shit, there’s some people that need to be left on read and blocked for that matter. We all tend to forget that not everyone responds or even reads what we sent immediately, or even at all, so we shouldn’t be stressing over that one bit.
We need to stop holding other people accountable, and start holding ourselves accountable. Does it truly matter whether or not we get an instant response? OF COURSE IT DOES when you are calling for help, or 911. God damn have you ever heard of patience? We need to stop drop and calm the fuck down! Yes, I said fuck. I don’t always say that unless I’m watching football and Dallas misses a huge play. So you can probably count on multiple hands just how many F bombs that is. But seriously, is being left on read truly the end of the world? Some may think so. Maybe for some of you snapchatters who never talk on the phone, or even work for that matter. But we are more than the newest and coolest technology we hold in our hands. No, being left on read doesn't always mean someone died, it’s simply not a response to whatever you said. Shit, sometimes I think it’s better to not say anything than to throw out words. It’s actually smarter and wiser. By not responding you are being the bigger person. Taking that high road in a world that is already filled with so many fucked up roads with fast cars. That fast paced instant direct message response or text on imessage that shows as read, so you know they read it, is totally irrelevant. God forbid. Just because you don't get a response doesn't give you an instant approval to panic. Calm the fuck down.
-Unknown.
This happens to everyone. You put yourself out there and get shut down. Which should be a positive right? As it’s better to know than to not know, or left wondering. But people now days don’t seem to have the decency to even respond. Leaving you left on read. Ask yourself how many times this has happened in this modern day and age. Probably a lot more than you’d actually think. Further discussion about this topic with my girlfriends, only carried on more gossip about this undeniable subject. Making me realize that this does actually happen more than we think. But why does it sting when it happens to us? Because in contrary, we are also doing it ourselves. So it only made me want to look further into the reasoning and the why. Because it’s just what I do. Turning a negative into a positive is my best trait and well, I’m going to do that for you wonderers that can’t fathom just why someone would dare leave your hot sweet ass on read. But they do, and you do it too.
First off all no you’re probably not getting ghosted. But if you are, it’s because you deserve it. Or they don’t deserve you. It can only go either of which way. Even you my sweet darling have done this before probably more than you even realize it. Leaving others left on read without even knowing it. Think about it. Your friend told you they texted you last week, and you totally forgot because you thought you responded. Turns out you only responded to them in your damn head. Oh yeah! Duh! That happens all the time. Gosh we are badass humans aren’t we? Working our asses off all day and some even nights. We just get tired. It’s not personal. Trust me, I do this a lot. I turn my phone on silent and go to bed leaving people on read or even on unread for days. But it isn’t a vicious tech attack at ya, it’s simply because we are not in the mood to talk or even respond. I think it’s better when it takes time, because time takes thought. Have you ever been angry and thrown up that anger with words? But you don’t even remember what you said. Well, think of no response in that aspect. Because when we’re tired, talk is cheap. Honestly, there’s only so many “how are yous” and “blah blah blahs” we can handle in one day. I mean not all people are on their phones every second. Even if we get the notification, haven’t you seen some people’s home screens with those red numbers all over the damn place? Well it’s exactly what it is, and some of us don’t have that type of OCD, so we keep those red dots everywhere on our phone all the time, yes get over it. We forget that this device in our hand is so much more than just a communication device. It’s the world at our fingertips. We technically have the capability to message ANYONE, yes even Tom Brady. So shit, there’s some people that need to be left on read and blocked for that matter. We all tend to forget that not everyone responds or even reads what we sent immediately, or even at all, so we shouldn’t be stressing over that one bit.
We need to stop holding other people accountable, and start holding ourselves accountable. Does it truly matter whether or not we get an instant response? OF COURSE IT DOES when you are calling for help, or 911. God damn have you ever heard of patience? We need to stop drop and calm the fuck down! Yes, I said fuck. I don’t always say that unless I’m watching football and Dallas misses a huge play. So you can probably count on multiple hands just how many F bombs that is. But seriously, is being left on read truly the end of the world? Some may think so. Maybe for some of you snapchatters who never talk on the phone, or even work for that matter. But we are more than the newest and coolest technology we hold in our hands. No, being left on read doesn't always mean someone died, it’s simply not a response to whatever you said. Shit, sometimes I think it’s better to not say anything than to throw out words. It’s actually smarter and wiser. By not responding you are being the bigger person. Taking that high road in a world that is already filled with so many fucked up roads with fast cars. That fast paced instant direct message response or text on imessage that shows as read, so you know they read it, is totally irrelevant. God forbid. Just because you don't get a response doesn't give you an instant approval to panic. Calm the fuck down.
What if we think of responding like receiving? Or compare sending to giving. Because we don't give something to someone and wait for the same damn thing in return. I mean imagine how silly that would be. Like when someone brings you coffee, it was such an amazing gesture right? You are thankful but you don’t respond by handing them a cup of coffee in return. Or hand your dirty cup for them to wash or throw away for that matter. You simply say “thank you” because they are actually right in front of you. I mean yea I can totally see how rude it would be to take the coffee and walk away without a response in that real live moment. That would be fucking rude as fuck. But online and via text, receiving means they got it. So what they choose to do with it after that isn’t in your power or control. You were simply sending aka: giving. We should all give without expecting in return. When you think of it that way, you won’t be so negative when you are left without a response, because you were just giving right? Like I’ve said before, we cannot control whether or not people want to be in our lives. It’s their choice to stay or go. Just like it’s their choice to respond. Not ours. Please don’t be that girl that responds to your own texts to someone else. Or the, “I know you read it”, or “why aren’t you responding.” Or even worse, responding to your own message that didn’t get a response in the same damn left on read thread with an answer to yourself. Don’t fucking do that! Have some dignity. That is exactly how you will get ghosted, because it’s what us millennials call “crazy”. So just don’t.
But yeah I get it, you put yourself out there by being confident. Asking someone out online or via text, or shit some kids still write notes in class. Maybe the note just got misguided, so you can’t assume you’re left on read in that instant now can you? But if they didn’t respond, maybe they need time to think in their real worlds busy life. Or maybe they just aren’t interested and don’t know how to be brave enough to hit that reject button. Maybe it’s just not in Gods plan. What’s meant to be will always be. I can’t say that enough. But to downgrade yourself for putting yourself out there and hoping for a response is moronic. It actually makes you brave because not a lot of people have that kind of courage. But being brave doesn’t guarantee you’re going to win the war, aka outcome, it just makes you a solid person. So maybe that’s why you didn’t get a response after all. Maybe they are intimidated by you. Ever think of that as a reaction? Give it time. Time tells all. I truly believe that.
Besides, It’s fun to be online and meet new people, that eventually you can talk to in person. But be guarded with that. Not all people are who they perceive to be, especially online. Or maybe you already know them, and you text and talk online from time to time, just let it be what it is. You didn’t even text your friend back remember? So don’t assume that they will always respond to you. I’ll always say, don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from anything. Ask the question, whose it going to hurt. After all, it's only the person that asks that learns. So do what your heart says. You can never fail when you are being honest and truthful to yourself. Even if you get no response and end up left on read. At least you know you tried. Because you can never fail for trying. That’s straight up real talk, and you will never need a response for that.
Written by: Epiphany Tiffany.