The Right Path
"When you're on your path, life conspires for you, not against you." Brene Brown.
This is one of my top ten favorite quotes. Because in life there are so many things that conspire for us, and against us. Yet we only seem to gravitate towards what we want in our lives, not what life brings us. So we go against our fate forcing our own way based off of our very own emotions, verses patiently waiting for life to bring us what we are meant for. Gosh, I can't count how many times I ended up hurt because life just wasn't on my side of the spectrum when it came to my wants. But turns out, I only ended up hurt by conspiring against what life had planned for me. So it had me thinking...What's wrong with being patient? For taking a deep inhale to exhale out all of the toxic things in my life that don't conspire for me? What if we could throw out our very own expectations of what we think is meant to be for us, and just let life happen exactly how it should be? To stop creating our own plots and turmoils. Life is already messy. If we could just accept what is, and stop worrying so much about what isn't, imagine how peaceful our lives would actually be.
I'm not saying in anyway that will make life perfect. Gosh, life can bring out loads of trauma. But to be on the right side of life when it does hit, at least then you are more willing to accept it. Because that’s one of the biggest issues today. Acceptance. A lot of us don't want to accept that we are on the wrong path, even when we are heading straight towards a bright red hazard sign staring directly at our faces. We still somehow evade the bumps and keep muddling through the mud, holding on without a seat belt, all because somehow we are wired to believe that life is ALWAYS HARD. But it's not, and it doesn't have to be. Yes, life is tragic. I'm not in anyway saying life is always easy. I'm saying the small things can be easy if you accept what isn't and allow life to conspire for you, not against you, like Brene Brown says.
For example, have you ever been in a relationship where it is constant fighting, constant nagging, and constant negative everything, and all you wish for is a breath of fresh air? Well darling, you are in the WRONG relationship because the universe is trying to tell you that it is not working. That it won't ever work. So stop holding on to what is against you and do what it takes to find whatever it is life is trying to tell you. Don't get me wrong. I myself have walked through plenty of wrong paths. Fighting what life had in store for me by holding on to all of the wrong ones. That was the issue. Holding on to the wrong. Trust me, I know in order to learn what's right we have to do wrong. But to hold on after the same patterns of wrongs continue on, well, I was only hurting myself then. Life has better for you too. So never feel bad, especially when the universe is trying to tell you something, you got to listen to it.
But that's the problem. A lot of us are not connected spiritually. So how can we truly rely on the unseen? And how can one wrap their head around fate, faith and hope let alone their own actual life? Gosh how can we not? No one wants to be unhappy, and I truly believe that life is what we make of it. Fate, faith and hope is our destiny. Regardless of what we do nor say, I believe what's meant to be will always be. So a. We can fight it and go against it making life difficult. Or b. Ride with the tide and enjoy it. It all depends on our attitude and how we handle difficulties. Because hate to break it to ya, we are always going to be around difficult situations and people. We can't control that. But we DO have the power inside ourselves to be content regardless. It all starts inside of ourselves. By doing good not only for yourself, but for humanity. By inspiring others, being kind to others, or smiling at people you don't know. Gosh would it even hurt to say hello every now and then. All of these things will help you feel better on the inside, and then you will start to notice that life isn't that bad after all, or let alone, against you one bit. Being on the right path is the everyday consistencies that bring peace inside of your daily routines. You aren't concerned with everyone else and what he or she said or did. You just want to bring joy to others because you have joy inside of you, even when things go wrong.
I truly believe that we all have a choice. We can settle and become bitter, unhappy and miserable because we want to live our lives that way. Or accept life for what it is and live in the actual moment we are in. Not the past, not the future or fantasy. Just being who we are, wherever we are, is how we can truly accept whatever challenge life throws at us. Because we lead our own lives, we think it, and we achieve it. So why are we holding on to weights when we can be floating on clouds? Especially when we are doing it to ourselves. Yes, I totally believe that we have to get ourselves onto our path by working hard and climbing mountains to get there. But once we are on track, the little things become smaller and the big things become more visible. We got to stop letting the roadblocks stop us. Roadblocks will always keep us from succeeding our vision, because we believe that life put them there for a reason. Somehow believing that the twisted toxic roadblock was supposed to be there forever. When in reality it was only there to teach us a lesson to keep moving forward on our path. That is what we call progress. But we all get stuck in our own road blocks not knowing what the hell we are supposed to do. So I'll say, when in doubt throw it out. And that can go with every choice in our life. Our gut always talks to us, we just got to pay more attention to it.
And maybe some of us have been unfortunate and have gone through a lot more of life's challenging moments. Don't give up and settle in the mud, swim in it and make the best out of it. It always gets hard before it gets better. Some tornadoes touch down on the same place multiple times. But you are still here, and that means life gave you a chance to be better. To actually live it because you got out of the hardest part yet. When life gets scary and makes you scream oh shit, you don't just give up the moment you realize you're actually okay do you? NO. Life is trying to get you off your ass and do something good with it. Don't settle in comfort or even worse, in trauma. When you're on the right path, you will still have plenty of oh shit moments. But how far you get will only be determined by how far you are willing to go. Life will do its part by conspiring what it is for you, when you finally accept when it's not.
Written by: Tiffany Bales.
This is one of my top ten favorite quotes. Because in life there are so many things that conspire for us, and against us. Yet we only seem to gravitate towards what we want in our lives, not what life brings us. So we go against our fate forcing our own way based off of our very own emotions, verses patiently waiting for life to bring us what we are meant for. Gosh, I can't count how many times I ended up hurt because life just wasn't on my side of the spectrum when it came to my wants. But turns out, I only ended up hurt by conspiring against what life had planned for me. So it had me thinking...What's wrong with being patient? For taking a deep inhale to exhale out all of the toxic things in my life that don't conspire for me? What if we could throw out our very own expectations of what we think is meant to be for us, and just let life happen exactly how it should be? To stop creating our own plots and turmoils. Life is already messy. If we could just accept what is, and stop worrying so much about what isn't, imagine how peaceful our lives would actually be.
I'm not saying in anyway that will make life perfect. Gosh, life can bring out loads of trauma. But to be on the right side of life when it does hit, at least then you are more willing to accept it. Because that’s one of the biggest issues today. Acceptance. A lot of us don't want to accept that we are on the wrong path, even when we are heading straight towards a bright red hazard sign staring directly at our faces. We still somehow evade the bumps and keep muddling through the mud, holding on without a seat belt, all because somehow we are wired to believe that life is ALWAYS HARD. But it's not, and it doesn't have to be. Yes, life is tragic. I'm not in anyway saying life is always easy. I'm saying the small things can be easy if you accept what isn't and allow life to conspire for you, not against you, like Brene Brown says.
For example, have you ever been in a relationship where it is constant fighting, constant nagging, and constant negative everything, and all you wish for is a breath of fresh air? Well darling, you are in the WRONG relationship because the universe is trying to tell you that it is not working. That it won't ever work. So stop holding on to what is against you and do what it takes to find whatever it is life is trying to tell you. Don't get me wrong. I myself have walked through plenty of wrong paths. Fighting what life had in store for me by holding on to all of the wrong ones. That was the issue. Holding on to the wrong. Trust me, I know in order to learn what's right we have to do wrong. But to hold on after the same patterns of wrongs continue on, well, I was only hurting myself then. Life has better for you too. So never feel bad, especially when the universe is trying to tell you something, you got to listen to it.
But that's the problem. A lot of us are not connected spiritually. So how can we truly rely on the unseen? And how can one wrap their head around fate, faith and hope let alone their own actual life? Gosh how can we not? No one wants to be unhappy, and I truly believe that life is what we make of it. Fate, faith and hope is our destiny. Regardless of what we do nor say, I believe what's meant to be will always be. So a. We can fight it and go against it making life difficult. Or b. Ride with the tide and enjoy it. It all depends on our attitude and how we handle difficulties. Because hate to break it to ya, we are always going to be around difficult situations and people. We can't control that. But we DO have the power inside ourselves to be content regardless. It all starts inside of ourselves. By doing good not only for yourself, but for humanity. By inspiring others, being kind to others, or smiling at people you don't know. Gosh would it even hurt to say hello every now and then. All of these things will help you feel better on the inside, and then you will start to notice that life isn't that bad after all, or let alone, against you one bit. Being on the right path is the everyday consistencies that bring peace inside of your daily routines. You aren't concerned with everyone else and what he or she said or did. You just want to bring joy to others because you have joy inside of you, even when things go wrong.
I truly believe that we all have a choice. We can settle and become bitter, unhappy and miserable because we want to live our lives that way. Or accept life for what it is and live in the actual moment we are in. Not the past, not the future or fantasy. Just being who we are, wherever we are, is how we can truly accept whatever challenge life throws at us. Because we lead our own lives, we think it, and we achieve it. So why are we holding on to weights when we can be floating on clouds? Especially when we are doing it to ourselves. Yes, I totally believe that we have to get ourselves onto our path by working hard and climbing mountains to get there. But once we are on track, the little things become smaller and the big things become more visible. We got to stop letting the roadblocks stop us. Roadblocks will always keep us from succeeding our vision, because we believe that life put them there for a reason. Somehow believing that the twisted toxic roadblock was supposed to be there forever. When in reality it was only there to teach us a lesson to keep moving forward on our path. That is what we call progress. But we all get stuck in our own road blocks not knowing what the hell we are supposed to do. So I'll say, when in doubt throw it out. And that can go with every choice in our life. Our gut always talks to us, we just got to pay more attention to it.
We also got to stop living inside of our fantasies and start living inside our realities. Because we only force out our actual realities when we do this. Fantasizing a new job, bigger house, better car, hotter husband, or nicer wife. All of these things put out higher expectation for us to believe we are failing. So instead of being ungrateful that we might not have everything we envisioned for ourselves, we should open our eyes to see that we actually have exactly what we need right in front of us. And that's what makes us fortunate. Not in anyway a failure. But when we lose sight of that, our visions become reality in the worst way. We were all brought up wired to fantasize. Having dreams and goals are something to look forward too. But when you achieve goals and actually get an amazing job, buy a house, get married and have children, enjoy that moment instead of racing to your next big goal. Sink in the moments that you fantasized and achieved. Because every single place we have been in our life, we once wanted to be. So be grateful and thankful for that. As we really don't know when our last moment will be.
And whether or not it worked out, you still got what you wanted at some point in time in your life. And well, that is what life had figured out for you in that moment. All you can do now is keep following your path. Because you will know if you are on the conspired path that life has planned for you, because it will just feel right.
And maybe some of us have been unfortunate and have gone through a lot more of life's challenging moments. Don't give up and settle in the mud, swim in it and make the best out of it. It always gets hard before it gets better. Some tornadoes touch down on the same place multiple times. But you are still here, and that means life gave you a chance to be better. To actually live it because you got out of the hardest part yet. When life gets scary and makes you scream oh shit, you don't just give up the moment you realize you're actually okay do you? NO. Life is trying to get you off your ass and do something good with it. Don't settle in comfort or even worse, in trauma. When you're on the right path, you will still have plenty of oh shit moments. But how far you get will only be determined by how far you are willing to go. Life will do its part by conspiring what it is for you, when you finally accept when it's not.
Written by: Tiffany Bales.