Fools Gold.
“True love cannot be found where it does not exist, nor can it be denied where it does”
-Torquato Tasso
Is love like gold? And how do you know whether or not its real or fake? Do you have to fall in and out of it to see the realness of it in the end? Or do you have to be Not fooled by it to figure it out? Besides what even differentiates real love and fake love anyway? Because unlike gold, there isn't a nitric acid test for love. Are we even in real love anyway? Because I truly feel like we aren't thanks to settling. And what really saddens me is that I have noticed so many people in these fake relationships that aren’t even happy or in love anymore, and are getting divorced and plain out mean to their “lovers” too much lately. What happened to that closeness? Is it completely gone? Does it even truly exist anymore? Sometimes I find myself wondering that. And that’s what worries me because I want to believe that it does. But it’s looking awful to society, because in real life you don't see much of the real love that it is hyped up to be anymore. Gosh, it breaks my heart to see so many people together, but so broken, and unloved. How can that be real? Because real gold never loses its value, just like real love wouldn't either right?
No wonder why more great people are choosing to be single now days. Then, you meet someone sexually attractive, amazing, funny and basically a full package, but find yourself questioning why they are thirty and single. You think that there has to be something wrong with them. When in reality they are solid gold because they are choosing to be better than everyone else by having standards and not settling. Besides, what happened to just appreciating someone great and real? Why do we have to put anything fake and negative out there anyways? But if you have to question whether or not its real does that automatically make it fake? Because I believe we can all love someone in that real love way, especially if our hearts are gold, but in order to differentiate its true realness from its falseness, there is only one way that confirms its value, by it being reciprocated. Maybe I learned my lesson, maybe I’m just coasting the surface, or maybe I just truly feel completely discouraged by love itself because it can be deceiving, especially when its fake. So does being able to recognize that I may have been fooled in love, because I'm no longer fooled by it, actually make me question the love I thought I was in before? I’d totally agree with that. I have been there before. I truly thought I was in that head over heels real love. But it wasn’t real. It couldn’t have been. Although every ounce of my being wanted it to be, and although my heart believed that it was, it wasn’t. Because it isn’t. And that real true love doesn’t have an ending. I think all of these people just settle so quickly because they are fooled in love. Or Fools in love. Being fools in love means that you fall too fast, or you are not content on your own so you fall for the first person you have sex with, or are intimate with. Not realizing that it’s just a physical act that has your heart completely fooled. Hints “fooled in love” There it is. Gosh I wish I could’ve told my teenage self this. You think you are in love, but it’s not real. So you are fooled into it. And you go on and on believing that it is real and true because not even your own damn heart can see the truth because it’s been fooled. So you hold on to it for years and years and believe that because you were fooled into love that you actually thought it was the real deal. But it’s not. And the only time you actually realize it, is when you are not fooled by it anymore. You aren’t blinded by its shiny coating. And you become completely mind blown by the reality of it. Because just like fool’s gold, fooled love looks just like the real thing, except it is invaluable, fooling everyone it touches. Real love is real gold. Not that fool’s gold. So know the difference.
-Torquato Tasso
Is love like gold? And how do you know whether or not its real or fake? Do you have to fall in and out of it to see the realness of it in the end? Or do you have to be Not fooled by it to figure it out? Besides what even differentiates real love and fake love anyway? Because unlike gold, there isn't a nitric acid test for love. Are we even in real love anyway? Because I truly feel like we aren't thanks to settling. And what really saddens me is that I have noticed so many people in these fake relationships that aren’t even happy or in love anymore, and are getting divorced and plain out mean to their “lovers” too much lately. What happened to that closeness? Is it completely gone? Does it even truly exist anymore? Sometimes I find myself wondering that. And that’s what worries me because I want to believe that it does. But it’s looking awful to society, because in real life you don't see much of the real love that it is hyped up to be anymore. Gosh, it breaks my heart to see so many people together, but so broken, and unloved. How can that be real? Because real gold never loses its value, just like real love wouldn't either right?
No wonder why more great people are choosing to be single now days. Then, you meet someone sexually attractive, amazing, funny and basically a full package, but find yourself questioning why they are thirty and single. You think that there has to be something wrong with them. When in reality they are solid gold because they are choosing to be better than everyone else by having standards and not settling. Besides, what happened to just appreciating someone great and real? Why do we have to put anything fake and negative out there anyways? But if you have to question whether or not its real does that automatically make it fake? Because I believe we can all love someone in that real love way, especially if our hearts are gold, but in order to differentiate its true realness from its falseness, there is only one way that confirms its value, by it being reciprocated. Maybe I learned my lesson, maybe I’m just coasting the surface, or maybe I just truly feel completely discouraged by love itself because it can be deceiving, especially when its fake. So does being able to recognize that I may have been fooled in love, because I'm no longer fooled by it, actually make me question the love I thought I was in before? I’d totally agree with that. I have been there before. I truly thought I was in that head over heels real love. But it wasn’t real. It couldn’t have been. Although every ounce of my being wanted it to be, and although my heart believed that it was, it wasn’t. Because it isn’t. And that real true love doesn’t have an ending. I think all of these people just settle so quickly because they are fooled in love. Or Fools in love. Being fools in love means that you fall too fast, or you are not content on your own so you fall for the first person you have sex with, or are intimate with. Not realizing that it’s just a physical act that has your heart completely fooled. Hints “fooled in love” There it is. Gosh I wish I could’ve told my teenage self this. You think you are in love, but it’s not real. So you are fooled into it. And you go on and on believing that it is real and true because not even your own damn heart can see the truth because it’s been fooled. So you hold on to it for years and years and believe that because you were fooled into love that you actually thought it was the real deal. But it’s not. And the only time you actually realize it, is when you are not fooled by it anymore. You aren’t blinded by its shiny coating. And you become completely mind blown by the reality of it. Because just like fool’s gold, fooled love looks just like the real thing, except it is invaluable, fooling everyone it touches. Real love is real gold. Not that fool’s gold. So know the difference.
I believe to be fooled in love is a spell. It’s something that makes no sense, yet we feel it so deeply. We are captivated by it. Like the person we are in love with is magnified for only ourselves, and no one else sees what we see but us. It’s a high that makes you feel so strongly, that you can’t fathom the thought of not feeling it. Would you call love a high? Because in love or not, you have the same heart, body mind and soul. But love brings you this high that your own soul gets addicted too. Not feeling in love is sobering. But both are essential to life’s hard lessons. Here's a perfect example of what fooled in love looks like.
“Being in love was like a high that I kept coming back too. I didn’t want to let it go. I wanted to hold onto it forever because it felt so marvelous. It felt so strong that it truly scared me, like a fear and an excitement combined into one emotion. So I engaged its powers by losing myself into it, because I believed it was solid, but that only weakened my very own. Maybe I thought it was more valuable than gold itself, and I was the only person carrying its weight. Turns out it was fake. Yet there I am, walking around like an orphan in a fleet market holding something so rare that it was burdened to be stolen. But I carried it with graceful pride, not thinking for a second that I was only being forced by its power to a dead end full of thieves waiting to take their merit. And they sure did. The high turned into a low I never thought that love could ever bring out. But it did. That love was just as pure as the gold, but it was forsaken, because it wasn’t real. So It turned into dust, vanishing without even a whisper of hope. For I was the only soul that it touched, and tainted.”
How could real love do such a thing? A love that is rare, that is true? But real love or real gold is only to be held onto and protected by only the strongest of all empires, The King and The Queen. So if it gets into the hands of a peasant, well it will be pardoned, real or not. And that’s exactly when it’s gone and set free from your life. Because you relinquished its powers when you realized that you were fooled by loves fools gold, but you became redeemed to be freed from it. And that’s even better. Here's why.
Because the cloudy haze is gone, and what you once felt is finally lifted off of your being. Something that consumed you entirely, is no longer a thought. You began to smile again, and to laugh, and to see the true realness and beauty of life itself by yourself. I truly believe that in order to value life, you have to face your fears alone. If you don't you will always live scared. I would say to love someone takes bravery, but to recognize that you are not in love takes strength and dignity. And bravery. We all want to settle for someone we think we love, and we always mistake physical acts of love for love, but we need to know the difference. I can't stress this enough. Just because you have a connection, doesn't automatically make it love. That shit is rare. So how can you truly love every single person you come across. It’s just not possible. When you're in love, it’s not even a question. It hits you like a punt return hits the 25-yard line. You will know when it’s real if you stop being fooled by what’s not. Don't keep paying for fools gold. Real gold is priceless. Its worth waiting for. Just like love.
Maybe I have it all wrong, maybe a lot of you are saying, Tiff, I have never even felt in love, let alone been fooled into it to begin with. But you want too already! This is amazing because you love yourself more than you love anyone else right? And this will allow you to recognize what’s real and what’s not. Because you truly can never fully love someone until you have that same type of love for your own self. And you will find it, believe that, because you are patient, and not settling for the first person you connected with. You are truly smart by not being fooled in love and that only makes you brave, smart and courageous. Because I believe when we aren’t in love, we have the full potential to truly love with our whole entire heart. So the person that is meant to have it, won't just borrow it. They will cherish and hold onto it. Because if anything, I've learned that love is reciprocal. If it’s not, then it’s not true love. It will vanquish. Yes, the love you feel, may be real and true inside of you. But that kind of love is only meant for a king and queen to keep safe together. Remember that. If it doesn’t go both ways, it’s not going to stay. So hold onto it forever believing that one day it will be yours. Or, let it go, and you will learn that you are capable of allowing your heart to heal. So when it’s supposed to love again, it will be fully open and ready to give and receive.
Not being fooled by that fool’s gold is when you finally see clearly. Your eyes are open, and you are seeing the real impostors who will try to take your heart for ransom. But you also see the genuineness of people who just want to get to know you for your greatness. You see the difference in reality and a daydream. You begin to love the little simple things in life. Smelling the flowers, enjoying the peace that you didn’t have because you were so busy protecting the love you didn’t want to lose. And you finally feel free. You feel washed from the water and that tainted soul is brand new, its pure. You get to be you, for you, and no one else. You belong to yourself. You begin to see and feel everything in a new light, and that spell that once held your soul captive, isn’t there at all. Even when you see it pass by you, you don’t even think about it. Because your heart is healed. It’s free. It’s yours. It doesn’t belong to anyone, only you. That’s a high we should all feel. You know better now. Because you are not fooled by fake love.
But then the day comes when you thought you would never be able too after you were held captive by it probably felt impossible, yet here you are. That’s what probably makes this the best damn feeling in the entire world. Better than falling in love. Realizing you are not fooled in love. Maybe you finally let go of that love you had for someone, or maybe you came to conclusion that you aren’t really in love with someone you thought you were. It’s empowering isn’t it? To take control of your feelings and emotions and realize the true extent of your own power verses the spell that love put onto you. To not be fooled by fake love is my own power inside of myself. To choose to love myself over the love that I relinquished, when I never imagined being able to do so is the exact clarity I needed to get to where I am now, unfooled.
Because I am now fully equipped to love again. So what if I haven’t found the one that lights me up yet. That’s okay, I will one day. I believe in love because I believe in hope, faith and goodness in the world. I believe there is true gold in love itself out there. That although it seems as if that real love is slowly fading like the oceans reef, it still exists, and won’t vanish because the good still triumphs the bad and always will. Although I may not be in that real love, I still choose to love. I love life and myself enough to know what I deserve. So I will not settle until that real gold shines so bright that my heart of solid gold will know it’s the real deal, because unlike magnets, real gold magnetizes real gold. So I will not allow my heart to ever be fooled by what’s fake again.
Real love is real gold, it will only increase your life's value. Not the opposite. Remember it.
“Being in love was like a high that I kept coming back too. I didn’t want to let it go. I wanted to hold onto it forever because it felt so marvelous. It felt so strong that it truly scared me, like a fear and an excitement combined into one emotion. So I engaged its powers by losing myself into it, because I believed it was solid, but that only weakened my very own. Maybe I thought it was more valuable than gold itself, and I was the only person carrying its weight. Turns out it was fake. Yet there I am, walking around like an orphan in a fleet market holding something so rare that it was burdened to be stolen. But I carried it with graceful pride, not thinking for a second that I was only being forced by its power to a dead end full of thieves waiting to take their merit. And they sure did. The high turned into a low I never thought that love could ever bring out. But it did. That love was just as pure as the gold, but it was forsaken, because it wasn’t real. So It turned into dust, vanishing without even a whisper of hope. For I was the only soul that it touched, and tainted.”
How could real love do such a thing? A love that is rare, that is true? But real love or real gold is only to be held onto and protected by only the strongest of all empires, The King and The Queen. So if it gets into the hands of a peasant, well it will be pardoned, real or not. And that’s exactly when it’s gone and set free from your life. Because you relinquished its powers when you realized that you were fooled by loves fools gold, but you became redeemed to be freed from it. And that’s even better. Here's why.
Because the cloudy haze is gone, and what you once felt is finally lifted off of your being. Something that consumed you entirely, is no longer a thought. You began to smile again, and to laugh, and to see the true realness and beauty of life itself by yourself. I truly believe that in order to value life, you have to face your fears alone. If you don't you will always live scared. I would say to love someone takes bravery, but to recognize that you are not in love takes strength and dignity. And bravery. We all want to settle for someone we think we love, and we always mistake physical acts of love for love, but we need to know the difference. I can't stress this enough. Just because you have a connection, doesn't automatically make it love. That shit is rare. So how can you truly love every single person you come across. It’s just not possible. When you're in love, it’s not even a question. It hits you like a punt return hits the 25-yard line. You will know when it’s real if you stop being fooled by what’s not. Don't keep paying for fools gold. Real gold is priceless. Its worth waiting for. Just like love.
Maybe I have it all wrong, maybe a lot of you are saying, Tiff, I have never even felt in love, let alone been fooled into it to begin with. But you want too already! This is amazing because you love yourself more than you love anyone else right? And this will allow you to recognize what’s real and what’s not. Because you truly can never fully love someone until you have that same type of love for your own self. And you will find it, believe that, because you are patient, and not settling for the first person you connected with. You are truly smart by not being fooled in love and that only makes you brave, smart and courageous. Because I believe when we aren’t in love, we have the full potential to truly love with our whole entire heart. So the person that is meant to have it, won't just borrow it. They will cherish and hold onto it. Because if anything, I've learned that love is reciprocal. If it’s not, then it’s not true love. It will vanquish. Yes, the love you feel, may be real and true inside of you. But that kind of love is only meant for a king and queen to keep safe together. Remember that. If it doesn’t go both ways, it’s not going to stay. So hold onto it forever believing that one day it will be yours. Or, let it go, and you will learn that you are capable of allowing your heart to heal. So when it’s supposed to love again, it will be fully open and ready to give and receive.
Not being fooled by that fool’s gold is when you finally see clearly. Your eyes are open, and you are seeing the real impostors who will try to take your heart for ransom. But you also see the genuineness of people who just want to get to know you for your greatness. You see the difference in reality and a daydream. You begin to love the little simple things in life. Smelling the flowers, enjoying the peace that you didn’t have because you were so busy protecting the love you didn’t want to lose. And you finally feel free. You feel washed from the water and that tainted soul is brand new, its pure. You get to be you, for you, and no one else. You belong to yourself. You begin to see and feel everything in a new light, and that spell that once held your soul captive, isn’t there at all. Even when you see it pass by you, you don’t even think about it. Because your heart is healed. It’s free. It’s yours. It doesn’t belong to anyone, only you. That’s a high we should all feel. You know better now. Because you are not fooled by fake love.
I think being fooled in love was too much for me to be honest. But I don’t want to sound like a damaged woman, because trust me, I am far from it. I have so much real love inside, a whole heart to give. When the man I am supposed to be with finds me, he will know how good I will be to him. So right now I am in love with myself. I am in love with the idea of being able to fall in love again. The best part about it is, the possibilities are endless. Anything can happen, any day, anytime, anyway. We just need to believe that not being fooled in love isn't so terrible, because the world is the limit, nothing can stop you now. So don’t feel sad and discouraged as a disengaged human being, because you have freed your body, mind, heart and soul for someone who deserves your real love. You have cleaned your emotional clutter off your own fates shelf. If you don’t believe that not being fooled in love is what brings you the capability to see things clearly, then you are probably still blinded by its fakeness.
But then the day comes when you thought you would never be able too after you were held captive by it probably felt impossible, yet here you are. That’s what probably makes this the best damn feeling in the entire world. Better than falling in love. Realizing you are not fooled in love. Maybe you finally let go of that love you had for someone, or maybe you came to conclusion that you aren’t really in love with someone you thought you were. It’s empowering isn’t it? To take control of your feelings and emotions and realize the true extent of your own power verses the spell that love put onto you. To not be fooled by fake love is my own power inside of myself. To choose to love myself over the love that I relinquished, when I never imagined being able to do so is the exact clarity I needed to get to where I am now, unfooled.
Because I am now fully equipped to love again. So what if I haven’t found the one that lights me up yet. That’s okay, I will one day. I believe in love because I believe in hope, faith and goodness in the world. I believe there is true gold in love itself out there. That although it seems as if that real love is slowly fading like the oceans reef, it still exists, and won’t vanish because the good still triumphs the bad and always will. Although I may not be in that real love, I still choose to love. I love life and myself enough to know what I deserve. So I will not settle until that real gold shines so bright that my heart of solid gold will know it’s the real deal, because unlike magnets, real gold magnetizes real gold. So I will not allow my heart to ever be fooled by what’s fake again.
Real love is real gold, it will only increase your life's value. Not the opposite. Remember it.
Written by: Tiffany Bales