Assumptions Lead Nowhere.
"The problem with assumptions is that we believe they are the truth" - Don Miguel Ruiz
Assumption. There it is. That damn word. Why do we assume anyways? Is it because of the lack of truth behind what we are told? That the evaded truth gets replaced by our own assumptions, because we have no proof of what it actually is? Leaving us to only place assumptions for the lack of confirmations. And what if our very own assumptions aren’t even true? Yet we still find some type of belief in those? Then what? We are faced with security? With no doubt? With pure happiness and joy? I beg to differ. Because when we assume, usually it’s not in a positive aspect. Because if we have to assume anything, it's only because the truth wasn't granted, leaving us to author our very own. Because as the definition itself states. An assumption is only accepted as truth without any proof behind it.
So how can we truly rely on our assumptions? Truth without proof. It’s like relying on the light to turn red while it’s yellow. Yeah, it’s assumed to turn red, so we either speed up and try to rush through it, or slowly come to a stop assuming that it will just turn red. Either way there is no proof other than our own assumption based off of the truth that we are taught to believe, that it will actually turn red. So what happens if it stays yellow? Then what? It would be utter chaos right? No one knowing what to do, some would speed up some would stop. It would be mass confusion right. Think of that situation in a real life situation. All because we relied on our assumptions, instead of what is right in front of us. It's just life. This is why I’m saying, even if we are taught to expect something, like a light turning red for example. Or something that is promised that is pretty much considerably guaranteed. Or even by its confirmation of it always turning red, doesn't mean that it is safe to assume that it will be red without proof that it will be until it is right? Because that’s all I’m saying we can truly rely on. What is. Not what could be, or what should be, what is right now. That’s all we should be believing and seeing. Not assuming. Assuming is another version of excusing. Because all we are doing when we are assuming, is excusing the undisclosed factual truth. Because if it is not right there in front of us, we assume that assuming will make it factual right? Yeah, replacing an assumption as factual truth does allow us to close an unclosed chapter. But either way, we are still left without a cause to carry on, yet we do anyways because we are relying on our own assumptions. So that’s why we do it right? But should we be digging deeper? Especially when it comes to something important to us, like a red light for example. But then again does it even matter, because sooner or later, an assumption either becomes fiction or nonfiction. So, ask yourself, is it better to skip ahead straight to your own version of what you want to believe, or wait for it to prevail on its own?
But when I truly stopped to think about it, we as humans always assume, it’s who we are. We assume because we feel a certain way about someone that it is automatically reciprocated. When in reality, it’s not even close. We assume because we are a good person, that everyone else is. We assume that because of the way that we are, that the vast majority of people are the same as us. That is a lie. Assume the opposite, life will treat you better. We are all created uniquely. We all have flaws, we all have amazing qualities that no one else has, and we all believe it or not, have left someone to assume truths about ourselves. Because honestly, we didn’t have the heart to be honest to them just to protect ourselves. Because after all, the only person we truly owe any loyalty too, is ourselves. So we can’t assume that people will be loyal to us. We aren’t animals, we are humans. And trust starts within. If you can’t even trust yourself to make a damn decision, how can you truly trust anyone else? So is that the problem? Trust? But is the reason why we can’t trust because we are always assuming? And are we all actually believing our own assumptions by replacing them as truths, and never again questioning our own confirmations. Even when later it presents itself. Because truth always does. But we all want the answers now. We have no patience, unwilling to wait. We all want to know the answer the second we ask for it. But life doesn’t work that way. And for some of us, we have to learn that the hard way. By even worse, believing a lie.
But aren't assumptions just a spin-off of a lie anyway? Because half of the time when we assume, we aren't even one hundred percent sure, and end up lying to ourselves when we do. Making an ass of you and me right? Assuming the worst. I mean we are all guilty of it right? Of course, I can see how there are times when we place assumptions for other peoples lack of confirmations. But just because they left you without the truth, doesn't make you the fool. Anyone that doesn't give you confirmation that clearly can, doesn't deserve someone as great as you anyways. Who cares about the truth, let it go. It's better, and someday, in time you will see that too. Because life will bring you something even more confirming. But have you ever assumed the best? Like maybe it didn't work out because it wasn't meant to be. We have all been here. We look back ten years prior to that one relationship, back to the moment we were so in love and heart broken when it didn't work out. But ten years later, you tell your best friend, "OH MY GOD Becky! What the hell was I thinking." I'm sure you didn't assume then, that he broke your heart for the best right? And you can't even imagine your life now with that person. So be thankful you didn't rely on your own assumption in that moment, and just believe that everything happens for a reason.
I believe that assumptions lead to failure. That we can take the road down assumption lane and be an ass by believing our own version of truth, and go nowhere. Or we can just stop assuming, and start accepting. Accepting what is. To accept when life doesn't give us an answer. It doesn't always make sense. Believe the truth that's given to us. Maybe it’s not in an ABCD answer format. But by seeing what’s right in front of us, is enough to know what’s real and what’s not. Life isn't a book; we don't always get the answers. We can't falsify our own with assumptions, even if it makes us feel better about ourselves. I truly believe that we can be present. I’ve learned a lot about acceptance recently. Accepting the truth of what life brings, no matter what version of it you choose to believe, still doesn't change what life actually brings to you. Read that again.
Assumption. There it is. That damn word. Why do we assume anyways? Is it because of the lack of truth behind what we are told? That the evaded truth gets replaced by our own assumptions, because we have no proof of what it actually is? Leaving us to only place assumptions for the lack of confirmations. And what if our very own assumptions aren’t even true? Yet we still find some type of belief in those? Then what? We are faced with security? With no doubt? With pure happiness and joy? I beg to differ. Because when we assume, usually it’s not in a positive aspect. Because if we have to assume anything, it's only because the truth wasn't granted, leaving us to author our very own. Because as the definition itself states. An assumption is only accepted as truth without any proof behind it.
So how can we truly rely on our assumptions? Truth without proof. It’s like relying on the light to turn red while it’s yellow. Yeah, it’s assumed to turn red, so we either speed up and try to rush through it, or slowly come to a stop assuming that it will just turn red. Either way there is no proof other than our own assumption based off of the truth that we are taught to believe, that it will actually turn red. So what happens if it stays yellow? Then what? It would be utter chaos right? No one knowing what to do, some would speed up some would stop. It would be mass confusion right. Think of that situation in a real life situation. All because we relied on our assumptions, instead of what is right in front of us. It's just life. This is why I’m saying, even if we are taught to expect something, like a light turning red for example. Or something that is promised that is pretty much considerably guaranteed. Or even by its confirmation of it always turning red, doesn't mean that it is safe to assume that it will be red without proof that it will be until it is right? Because that’s all I’m saying we can truly rely on. What is. Not what could be, or what should be, what is right now. That’s all we should be believing and seeing. Not assuming. Assuming is another version of excusing. Because all we are doing when we are assuming, is excusing the undisclosed factual truth. Because if it is not right there in front of us, we assume that assuming will make it factual right? Yeah, replacing an assumption as factual truth does allow us to close an unclosed chapter. But either way, we are still left without a cause to carry on, yet we do anyways because we are relying on our own assumptions. So that’s why we do it right? But should we be digging deeper? Especially when it comes to something important to us, like a red light for example. But then again does it even matter, because sooner or later, an assumption either becomes fiction or nonfiction. So, ask yourself, is it better to skip ahead straight to your own version of what you want to believe, or wait for it to prevail on its own?
But when I truly stopped to think about it, we as humans always assume, it’s who we are. We assume because we feel a certain way about someone that it is automatically reciprocated. When in reality, it’s not even close. We assume because we are a good person, that everyone else is. We assume that because of the way that we are, that the vast majority of people are the same as us. That is a lie. Assume the opposite, life will treat you better. We are all created uniquely. We all have flaws, we all have amazing qualities that no one else has, and we all believe it or not, have left someone to assume truths about ourselves. Because honestly, we didn’t have the heart to be honest to them just to protect ourselves. Because after all, the only person we truly owe any loyalty too, is ourselves. So we can’t assume that people will be loyal to us. We aren’t animals, we are humans. And trust starts within. If you can’t even trust yourself to make a damn decision, how can you truly trust anyone else? So is that the problem? Trust? But is the reason why we can’t trust because we are always assuming? And are we all actually believing our own assumptions by replacing them as truths, and never again questioning our own confirmations. Even when later it presents itself. Because truth always does. But we all want the answers now. We have no patience, unwilling to wait. We all want to know the answer the second we ask for it. But life doesn’t work that way. And for some of us, we have to learn that the hard way. By even worse, believing a lie.
But aren't assumptions just a spin-off of a lie anyway? Because half of the time when we assume, we aren't even one hundred percent sure, and end up lying to ourselves when we do. Making an ass of you and me right? Assuming the worst. I mean we are all guilty of it right? Of course, I can see how there are times when we place assumptions for other peoples lack of confirmations. But just because they left you without the truth, doesn't make you the fool. Anyone that doesn't give you confirmation that clearly can, doesn't deserve someone as great as you anyways. Who cares about the truth, let it go. It's better, and someday, in time you will see that too. Because life will bring you something even more confirming. But have you ever assumed the best? Like maybe it didn't work out because it wasn't meant to be. We have all been here. We look back ten years prior to that one relationship, back to the moment we were so in love and heart broken when it didn't work out. But ten years later, you tell your best friend, "OH MY GOD Becky! What the hell was I thinking." I'm sure you didn't assume then, that he broke your heart for the best right? And you can't even imagine your life now with that person. So be thankful you didn't rely on your own assumption in that moment, and just believe that everything happens for a reason.
I believe that assumptions lead to failure. That we can take the road down assumption lane and be an ass by believing our own version of truth, and go nowhere. Or we can just stop assuming, and start accepting. Accepting what is. To accept when life doesn't give us an answer. It doesn't always make sense. Believe the truth that's given to us. Maybe it’s not in an ABCD answer format. But by seeing what’s right in front of us, is enough to know what’s real and what’s not. Life isn't a book; we don't always get the answers. We can't falsify our own with assumptions, even if it makes us feel better about ourselves. I truly believe that we can be present. I’ve learned a lot about acceptance recently. Accepting the truth of what life brings, no matter what version of it you choose to believe, still doesn't change what life actually brings to you. Read that again.
Sure, it helps ease our pride and inner confidence when we dot our Is and cross our Ts. But nothing in life is seamless. It’s messy, but that's what makes it perfect. It’s the trials we overcome that build our strength. It’s the heart breaks that make us wise. And it’s the struggles that makes us appreciative. So whether or not we place assumptions for our own confirmations, doesn't really change anything realistically right? I mean, when you accept life the truth will always follow. Because like I said, the truth is always revealed. In Gods timing. Yeah, maybe your assumptions were accurate, but the proof didn't come when you wanted it too. That's always a possibility. But does knowing that you were right really make a difference anyways? Not one bit. Because it’s not about who’s right, or who’s wrong, who hurt you, or who you hurt, because with life comes fears, regrets, hurts, trials and unfortunately lies. But all that's thrown at us builds our character. And people who overcome challenges and continue on are brave. We are human to assume. We are built and wired to have answers. I mean hello Google and Siri. So it’s in our nature. Of course when we are faced with life challenges we go down that path of assumption when we don't have the answers. It’s better to assume than to not know anything at all is what most people will say. But sometimes, not knowing, letting go and just accepting the unknown will take you somewhere you have never been, and right there in that exact moment, you will know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Not by assuming, but by accepting the actuality of the unspoken truth.
Written by Tiffany Bales.