Single, and Emotionally Exhausted.
So i'm out with my single girlfriends, and we get into conversation about how all the good guys marry the mean girls. You know the girls that are defined as crazy, the bitches, the girls that these guys will always chase, because they don't give a fuck about anything let alone a good guy that likes them. But that only makes him want her more. Because according to the hot guy bartender that tried to counsel us single ladies into being that crazy mean girl so more men will like us. Apparently these "good guys" only want love if its torture, just like Taylor Swift says. Go-figure.
So are we completely screwed if we are good girls that don't like drama, confrontation, or being mean and crazy? We're just girls that actually love love, and enjoy happiness in life and even guy stuff. Unlike those prissy needy mean girls that make their man beg and chase them just to get a damn bone. And does that make us single girls easy just because we also love sex and want to do it more than once a damn week? NO. And on top of that, we just want to watch the damn football game, hang out with the guys, drink beer, and have FUN. So does that mean we are not wifey material?
Lets be honest here, a lot of my single girlfriends are amazingly sweet, can cook one hell of a meal, and probably are the sexiest things any man would totally drool over. On top of that, have outstanding careers making stupid money, are totally independent with their own houses, cars, paying all their own bills, not needing a man for a dime. Plus, all they really want is someone to enjoy, and someone to love, to make life easier for them. So i'm totally confused as to HOW IS THIS NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL? Because if I were the dude, i'd be marrying this girl.
So basically, us single woman need to be needy, crazy, and mean to get a good guy? WOW. This absolutely BLOWS my mind. What type of man wants a mean needy crazy woman? I started thinking about it, and looking at a lot of married couples, and the crazy thing is, a lot of these married woman, i'm sorry if you fall into this category, are bossy, telling their husbands what they need to be doing, which to me shows a sign of not accepting him as his own person. So just because you two are married, doesn't mean you have the power to control him now, poor guy needs to feel appreciated, and loved, not controlled. But then again- is that what he wants? Does a man want to be controlled by a bossy woman so he doesn't have to make any decisions for himself? And if so, does that make him a real man that a successful independent woman would even desire? NOPE. Not me.
Are these mean woman only ending up with what we single woman think are good guys, when in all reality they married the first guy that showed their mean ass attention, and knew that he must be a pussy that only gives her the power to control him, and are only making these "good guys" look good.
And how can a real good man want a woman to be crazy over him? It makes no sense to me, let me call him 50 times in a row just to end up yelling at him for not answering the first twenty times I called. How can that actually be in anyway attractive to a man? He must be crazy himself if that's something he wants.
But she is crazy, mean and needy, giving him a chase for ten years, and he's the only idiot that actually still wanted her because no one else fell for her bullshit, so she finally gave in and because in his head it was a challenge, she wins the ring. How about a standing ovation for that one. And we say poor guy? I say hes the idiot.
Okay it's now all starting to make sense to me now, and I'm starting not to feel any sympathy for these "good married men" that us single woman seem to admire. Because, what are we admiring in them anyway? Is it the fact that they are settled down, with kids, and seem happy with a stuck up woman, and maybe we actually just feel bad for these dudes, so we have some type of empathy for them, and want someone like them because we want to only go and show these guys just how a real woman would treat them? But the damn whole time we wanted them they were too busy chasing the mean crazy woman that they didn't even care to notice the good girl right in front of them, because to them it was too easy. WTF and people say women are confusing. I beg to differ.
So I had to go straight to the source to see if there is actual legitimacy to this deranged desire these men have towards these needy, crazy, mean women. And it turns out, men do like a challenge, and they like crazy to a point because they want to know that their woman only wants them, it's a weird trust thing for them. And they want a chase, because men want what they can't have, so when we make it hard for them, they only want us more. And I totally get that because I can be the same way. It's so much more attractive to me when a man isn't always available to me every second, because I myself am an independent woman, so I don't want someone to be needy towards me. But MEN- They like that shit, and as much as they won't admit it, they want a woman to be needy for them, EVEN IF THEY SAY WE ARE TOO MUCH- they Fucking like it! Because again, they want us to only want them-WTF- and the whole mean girl thing, I mean I don't think anyone truly likes a mean person, but some men don't see that their women are truly mean until its already too late, and honestly he's just stuck and has to deal with a bitchy wife, because I can almost guarantee, if a real man knows your mean, he's not jumping hoops to marry you unless he himself is also a mean person. Plus, sometimes us woman become bitchy because all we really want is to feel appreciated, loved and have mind blowing sex, so if we aren't being satisfied completely, we will be bitchy. So it goes both ways.
So whats a single girl to do in a pond full of marriages? What are we supposed to do when all the good guys are married, and there isn't much left in the sea of hopes? We need to realize, that there is someone for everyone, and good things take time. And most of the marriages I've witnessed were just toxic relationships that turned into settling, that eventually lead to divorce. So if your a single, sexy independent woman that is truly exhausted, don't beat yourself up, you're the smart one for waiting for Mr. Right. Because he is out there waiting for a woman like you, a woman that wants to have a few beers with him and his friends, that's nice, kind, sweet, and successful, that loves love, and doesn't need him for anything other than affection. So when you find him, give him a chase, make him wait, make him want you more, show him you need him and give him a little crazy, maybe in just the bedroom, and I guarantee, that will be a lifetime of happiness for the both of you.
Life and love takes time, so don't settle for someone you think is right just because you want it all now, follow your heart, and everything else will fall into place.
So are we completely screwed if we are good girls that don't like drama, confrontation, or being mean and crazy? We're just girls that actually love love, and enjoy happiness in life and even guy stuff. Unlike those prissy needy mean girls that make their man beg and chase them just to get a damn bone. And does that make us single girls easy just because we also love sex and want to do it more than once a damn week? NO. And on top of that, we just want to watch the damn football game, hang out with the guys, drink beer, and have FUN. So does that mean we are not wifey material?
Lets be honest here, a lot of my single girlfriends are amazingly sweet, can cook one hell of a meal, and probably are the sexiest things any man would totally drool over. On top of that, have outstanding careers making stupid money, are totally independent with their own houses, cars, paying all their own bills, not needing a man for a dime. Plus, all they really want is someone to enjoy, and someone to love, to make life easier for them. So i'm totally confused as to HOW IS THIS NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL? Because if I were the dude, i'd be marrying this girl.
So basically, us single woman need to be needy, crazy, and mean to get a good guy? WOW. This absolutely BLOWS my mind. What type of man wants a mean needy crazy woman? I started thinking about it, and looking at a lot of married couples, and the crazy thing is, a lot of these married woman, i'm sorry if you fall into this category, are bossy, telling their husbands what they need to be doing, which to me shows a sign of not accepting him as his own person. So just because you two are married, doesn't mean you have the power to control him now, poor guy needs to feel appreciated, and loved, not controlled. But then again- is that what he wants? Does a man want to be controlled by a bossy woman so he doesn't have to make any decisions for himself? And if so, does that make him a real man that a successful independent woman would even desire? NOPE. Not me.
Are these mean woman only ending up with what we single woman think are good guys, when in all reality they married the first guy that showed their mean ass attention, and knew that he must be a pussy that only gives her the power to control him, and are only making these "good guys" look good.
And how can a real good man want a woman to be crazy over him? It makes no sense to me, let me call him 50 times in a row just to end up yelling at him for not answering the first twenty times I called. How can that actually be in anyway attractive to a man? He must be crazy himself if that's something he wants.
But she is crazy, mean and needy, giving him a chase for ten years, and he's the only idiot that actually still wanted her because no one else fell for her bullshit, so she finally gave in and because in his head it was a challenge, she wins the ring. How about a standing ovation for that one. And we say poor guy? I say hes the idiot.
Okay it's now all starting to make sense to me now, and I'm starting not to feel any sympathy for these "good married men" that us single woman seem to admire. Because, what are we admiring in them anyway? Is it the fact that they are settled down, with kids, and seem happy with a stuck up woman, and maybe we actually just feel bad for these dudes, so we have some type of empathy for them, and want someone like them because we want to only go and show these guys just how a real woman would treat them? But the damn whole time we wanted them they were too busy chasing the mean crazy woman that they didn't even care to notice the good girl right in front of them, because to them it was too easy. WTF and people say women are confusing. I beg to differ.
So I had to go straight to the source to see if there is actual legitimacy to this deranged desire these men have towards these needy, crazy, mean women. And it turns out, men do like a challenge, and they like crazy to a point because they want to know that their woman only wants them, it's a weird trust thing for them. And they want a chase, because men want what they can't have, so when we make it hard for them, they only want us more. And I totally get that because I can be the same way. It's so much more attractive to me when a man isn't always available to me every second, because I myself am an independent woman, so I don't want someone to be needy towards me. But MEN- They like that shit, and as much as they won't admit it, they want a woman to be needy for them, EVEN IF THEY SAY WE ARE TOO MUCH- they Fucking like it! Because again, they want us to only want them-WTF- and the whole mean girl thing, I mean I don't think anyone truly likes a mean person, but some men don't see that their women are truly mean until its already too late, and honestly he's just stuck and has to deal with a bitchy wife, because I can almost guarantee, if a real man knows your mean, he's not jumping hoops to marry you unless he himself is also a mean person. Plus, sometimes us woman become bitchy because all we really want is to feel appreciated, loved and have mind blowing sex, so if we aren't being satisfied completely, we will be bitchy. So it goes both ways.
So whats a single girl to do in a pond full of marriages? What are we supposed to do when all the good guys are married, and there isn't much left in the sea of hopes? We need to realize, that there is someone for everyone, and good things take time. And most of the marriages I've witnessed were just toxic relationships that turned into settling, that eventually lead to divorce. So if your a single, sexy independent woman that is truly exhausted, don't beat yourself up, you're the smart one for waiting for Mr. Right. Because he is out there waiting for a woman like you, a woman that wants to have a few beers with him and his friends, that's nice, kind, sweet, and successful, that loves love, and doesn't need him for anything other than affection. So when you find him, give him a chase, make him wait, make him want you more, show him you need him and give him a little crazy, maybe in just the bedroom, and I guarantee, that will be a lifetime of happiness for the both of you.
Life and love takes time, so don't settle for someone you think is right just because you want it all now, follow your heart, and everything else will fall into place.