The One vs. The One Right Now

Is it true that when you say he is the one, that he truly is The One? Or is he just the one right now? Is there even such thing as “The One” anyways? And what is this obsession we have trying to find it? Think about it, obviously there are moments in life when you are with someone, and in that moment you think that person is “the one” so you settle down and when reality sinks in you wonder if they really ever were the one to begin with, so you continue trying to find that missing puzzle piece, but still assume he could be the one just because he calls you pretty and gives you attention, not paying any attention to what your heart is trying to tell you, so you settle once again with The One right now. This is an issue to a lot of reasons why relationships don’t work out, we are in such a rush to find The One, but are so focused on settling with THE ONE RIGHT NOW, and its mainly because we are too scared to be alone, that we are missing out truly finding the one because the one right now is monopolizing all of our time and energy.

But how can you correlate the difference between the one and the one right now, and how can you be so sure that there is even such a thing as The One right? It’s called faith, and too many of us question it because we are too scared to believe in it, but when you find it, you just know it, and you become one of those people that for once believes in something bigger than us, bigger than logic, you become a better version of yourself, you become whole. That no matter where you are in life, when you have met “The one” you are heartbroken living without them. You will never doubt anything when you find “The One”

But can it be true that there is only one person your soul connects with? Out of seven billion people in this world, how can it be possible that for every one, there’s only one? This is tricky, because people’s lives change, and people outgrow each other, people die, and people let life get to them, changing them, that once beautiful amazing woman who you thought was the one, became bitter and lazy, changing your perception of them. So yes, logical thinkers will say that there are many souls that can have a compatible connection because life and people do change. 

I would like to believe that there is just one person that could change your life forever. The one that makes you wonder where they have been your entire life, that the reason why you have been alone all this time is because you have been waiting for him, and he has been waiting for you.  The one person that after so many years, captivates your heart making you believe that for once in your entire life, there is no one else out there for you. That you are sure that he is the one you want to spend forever with, minus the logic of how crazy it sounds, minus the chaos it could bring, minus the trials, tears, and pain, it was all worth it because with him, you see the end of who you used to be, you see the beginning and you see life so precious that it does make you completely terrified, terrified to lose him, terrified to feel so strong that you can feel that it’s not safe because they complete you, and life can take them away. But if does, you'll still feel grateful that life brought you The One, even if it is just a moment of time with them, you cherish it with all you have because it’s better than never having it at all. I can see how scary that could be for a lot of people.

So is living with the one right now easier because it’s safer? Because when they are gone, you just go find another one?  Because when you find the one and open up your entire heart, and they are gone, you can’t imagine your life ever being the same, and its so deep that a part of you actually dies without them. 

We humans are so scared of the one, let’s be honest here, even if we can’t control how our soul feels, we ignore all the red flags and signs from the one right now anyway. Its so sad. Why cant we all be lucky enough to find the one, and not be scared of it, embracing and accepting it, because I’m telling you not everyone finds The One, because they all settled with The One Right Now, simple as that. 

But if you are lucky enough to be with THE ONE that is amazing, beautiful and rare. 

I totally believe that faith overcomes logic, so I’ll keep believing that there is something out there, if I haven’t met him already.

-Tiffany Bales