The Game of Love.
Are we only illustrating false love actions by being intimately involved without the actual commitment? Is that why we assume that we feel in love? Because when we become intimate with someone we have feelings for, we automatically think that it has to have a meaning? But love is more than just a physical act, so why do we give our love anyway assuming that they feel the same way, when we never knew for sure how they felt to begin with, and yet we still give our heart away like its free change.
Is this when "Love" turns into a game?
Ever feel like you have reached a breaking point when you feel in love? Like they're just playing games with your heart, playing with your mind, and your emotions like a used penny slot machine, and you're just one out of a bunch of others waiting to finally "win them?"
Like helllooo, I'm here, I want you, I give you all the girlfriend/boyfriend benefits and yet you still never send me flowers, or talk for hours, or even ask me how my day was anymore, leaving me left guessing, and eventually plain out ghosted, feeling like another one just got away.
What is it with these type of people that say they care so much about you, and say these words that make you melt like "You are such a beautiful person that deserves the whole damn world" but then acts completely opposite, but we totally believe it WHY? Because WE LOVE THEM RIGHT?
And in most cases, they really don't want to give you the world, yet we still drink those words up and give them every inch of our being just because THEY SAY THEY CARE. We all want them to care, but when it comes down to it, they really don't.
So, here's when “The Game of Love" begins.
People want what they CAN'T have, its all about the chase, so when they tried and tried to get you because they knew they couldn't have you, that's when they said the sweet good morning beautifuls, messages and calls all damn day long. But when you finally fall for them, becoming intimate and giving in, believing that he or she is that one that cares about you, they take it all back, claiming that they are just too busy, that their sick, or that they just have sooooo many things going on. But THAT my dear is a LIE. NO ONE has that many things to do to where they can't pick up the phone and say "hey i'm thinking of you, hope you have a great day, and that they will call you later" AND THEN follow through actually calling you later. It only takes 5 minutes out of 1440 in a whole day, so it's absurd if you think someone actually cares about you that doesn't even take five minutes of their precious 1440 minutes, just to show you that yes, they really do mean what they say.
So the games begin, and you start to feel like you have to play along because you have no other choice, because to you, their worth it. So you slow things down, and push back, stopping the morning phone calls, and the good night texts, and the day to day photos of just exactly what you ate for lunch, hoping to show them that you can be the person that they want, and of course what happens then? They FINALLY refrain themselves from the isolation from you that was put in place, but only because they are nervous that you might find someone else that's actually worthy, and because your giving them that chase again, and maybe he or she does sorta care, so they chase you again, until you fall ALL OVER AGAIN, and the vicious love game goes around in a full force circle, leaving you in the same damn place you started. Feeling sad, used and unsure of their feelings once again, and it continues until they find someone else that is funner, hotter and younger, am I right?
That my dear is the game of "love."
And it is so sad because in all reality, no matter whether or not you even wanted to play this sick game, doesn't even matter because you’re still going to lose, because you are too inexperienced for this type of game, you know why, because you have a heart of gold, and won't believe that he or she doesn't love you, or the reality that any person that makes you play this game doesn’t deserve a darling sweet loving heart like yours anyway. So move on while you still can!
And Girls, I can't say this enough, when a man truly has fallen for a woman, he makes himself one hundred percent clear, because my darling, men are super territorial, and when you got them, they make it clear that they do not want another man near "their woman". So there it is, you can sit and make excuses for him because even he has you fooled into believing his lies, or you can show him just exactly what hes missing by letting another man treat you BETTER! That right there will stomp on his big fat ego that YOU filled up in his head. And it’s not a game because moving on is what you should’ve done along time ago.
Some of us women don't realize just how powerful we actually are, especially when we believe we are in love with someone that brings out a lot of our very own insecurities. And this can go both ways, but it's so true, and I hate seeing women being played like fools over a man that isn't even worth it. Not only the tears, it's the mindset these men are putting into our beautiful minds, they are making us beautiful women feel worthless. If you're allowing a man to treat you that way, my darling you need to wake up and smell the beautiful roses that you're coworker is getting at least once a month and she's not even married... hmmm.. Maybe it's because she knows her worth and isn't settling with a man that treats her like a trophy that just collects dust on the shelf, he's taking her out, and showing her off, claiming her on his arm, you know why? Because he is making it clear to other men to back the heck off his beautiful woman, and I guarantee he's not playing any games with her.
I'm not trying to sound harsh in this post, I just see so many people fall for that same pretentious type of person, believing that it could be love, and that they are the real deal, when all they're doing is playing with your heart, making you believe their lies with their perfectly charming poker face, just because they can. When all they truly end up doing is throwing you right back into the sea of regret. It’s sad but so true.
I get it, we think that we can change a person just because we love them, instead of seeing who they truly are because we are blinded by all of these games they're playing. Honestly, we don’t know who the hell they really are, but we want to focus on the imagination of what we think they are capable of, instead of taking them for exactly what they are, so we hold on to the feelings that they brought out at some point. But that doesn't mean they will come around to change or even love you. It's only a game, not love, and these "jokers" will win every time if you are falling for them.
Yes, I’m sure a lot of people can say that they married this person, because maybe they did realize just how much you did truly love them, and they did change or grow up for you, that’s great, and I truly hope you are happy because love is love, not a game.
It truly does suck because sometimes it can totally feel like love is a game, but the only time it actually is, is when its NOT LOVE. You may feel "in love" or think you are, but you love the idea of it, not them. Because how can you truly love someone who is playing you like a game, never showing you the actual love you truly deserve?
Love is so much more than a game, it's life, it's respect, it's loving yourself before you can even say you love someone else. If you are allowing someone to play this game, you probably need to sit down and ask yourself if you love you more, because that is the first step. The second is, we need to stop mistaking intimacy for love. That's probably the biggest issue hands down, because everyone wants to feel connected and comforted to someone, so intimacy is the easiest way, because lets face it, everyone is looking for a piece, but when you mistake a physical act for love, then mentally you are totally misleading your heart and that's what got you into this game of what you are mistaking for love in the first place.
Love is deep rooted, it's so much more than being intimate, yes, that's one correlation to it, but love is being your whole self and they love you even more because of it, when they look at you and smile for no reason, and they want to be in your life however they can. Love is climbing mountains and actually making it to the top with that person, love is mutually understood, it's guarded, and it's a secret that is only shared between two people, it's laughing in the dark for no reason, it's fun, it's hard as shit, it's a lifetime of trials and doubts, but also so respected that no matter what happens there is no start or finish because it never was a game, because love has no ending.
I may or may not have experienced it for myself, but these are just my thoughts on what it is or could be all about. So stop playing the game with someone you think you love, and just be with the one that makes you laugh, and smile, and makes you feel so comfortable that you can sleep with them snuggled up all night long like your very own teddy bear, and because every part of your being knows its real.
Is this when "Love" turns into a game?
Ever feel like you have reached a breaking point when you feel in love? Like they're just playing games with your heart, playing with your mind, and your emotions like a used penny slot machine, and you're just one out of a bunch of others waiting to finally "win them?"
Like helllooo, I'm here, I want you, I give you all the girlfriend/boyfriend benefits and yet you still never send me flowers, or talk for hours, or even ask me how my day was anymore, leaving me left guessing, and eventually plain out ghosted, feeling like another one just got away.
What is it with these type of people that say they care so much about you, and say these words that make you melt like "You are such a beautiful person that deserves the whole damn world" but then acts completely opposite, but we totally believe it WHY? Because WE LOVE THEM RIGHT?
And in most cases, they really don't want to give you the world, yet we still drink those words up and give them every inch of our being just because THEY SAY THEY CARE. We all want them to care, but when it comes down to it, they really don't.
So, here's when “The Game of Love" begins.
People want what they CAN'T have, its all about the chase, so when they tried and tried to get you because they knew they couldn't have you, that's when they said the sweet good morning beautifuls, messages and calls all damn day long. But when you finally fall for them, becoming intimate and giving in, believing that he or she is that one that cares about you, they take it all back, claiming that they are just too busy, that their sick, or that they just have sooooo many things going on. But THAT my dear is a LIE. NO ONE has that many things to do to where they can't pick up the phone and say "hey i'm thinking of you, hope you have a great day, and that they will call you later" AND THEN follow through actually calling you later. It only takes 5 minutes out of 1440 in a whole day, so it's absurd if you think someone actually cares about you that doesn't even take five minutes of their precious 1440 minutes, just to show you that yes, they really do mean what they say.
So the games begin, and you start to feel like you have to play along because you have no other choice, because to you, their worth it. So you slow things down, and push back, stopping the morning phone calls, and the good night texts, and the day to day photos of just exactly what you ate for lunch, hoping to show them that you can be the person that they want, and of course what happens then? They FINALLY refrain themselves from the isolation from you that was put in place, but only because they are nervous that you might find someone else that's actually worthy, and because your giving them that chase again, and maybe he or she does sorta care, so they chase you again, until you fall ALL OVER AGAIN, and the vicious love game goes around in a full force circle, leaving you in the same damn place you started. Feeling sad, used and unsure of their feelings once again, and it continues until they find someone else that is funner, hotter and younger, am I right?
That my dear is the game of "love."
And it is so sad because in all reality, no matter whether or not you even wanted to play this sick game, doesn't even matter because you’re still going to lose, because you are too inexperienced for this type of game, you know why, because you have a heart of gold, and won't believe that he or she doesn't love you, or the reality that any person that makes you play this game doesn’t deserve a darling sweet loving heart like yours anyway. So move on while you still can!
And Girls, I can't say this enough, when a man truly has fallen for a woman, he makes himself one hundred percent clear, because my darling, men are super territorial, and when you got them, they make it clear that they do not want another man near "their woman". So there it is, you can sit and make excuses for him because even he has you fooled into believing his lies, or you can show him just exactly what hes missing by letting another man treat you BETTER! That right there will stomp on his big fat ego that YOU filled up in his head. And it’s not a game because moving on is what you should’ve done along time ago.
Some of us women don't realize just how powerful we actually are, especially when we believe we are in love with someone that brings out a lot of our very own insecurities. And this can go both ways, but it's so true, and I hate seeing women being played like fools over a man that isn't even worth it. Not only the tears, it's the mindset these men are putting into our beautiful minds, they are making us beautiful women feel worthless. If you're allowing a man to treat you that way, my darling you need to wake up and smell the beautiful roses that you're coworker is getting at least once a month and she's not even married... hmmm.. Maybe it's because she knows her worth and isn't settling with a man that treats her like a trophy that just collects dust on the shelf, he's taking her out, and showing her off, claiming her on his arm, you know why? Because he is making it clear to other men to back the heck off his beautiful woman, and I guarantee he's not playing any games with her.
I'm not trying to sound harsh in this post, I just see so many people fall for that same pretentious type of person, believing that it could be love, and that they are the real deal, when all they're doing is playing with your heart, making you believe their lies with their perfectly charming poker face, just because they can. When all they truly end up doing is throwing you right back into the sea of regret. It’s sad but so true.
I get it, we think that we can change a person just because we love them, instead of seeing who they truly are because we are blinded by all of these games they're playing. Honestly, we don’t know who the hell they really are, but we want to focus on the imagination of what we think they are capable of, instead of taking them for exactly what they are, so we hold on to the feelings that they brought out at some point. But that doesn't mean they will come around to change or even love you. It's only a game, not love, and these "jokers" will win every time if you are falling for them.
Yes, I’m sure a lot of people can say that they married this person, because maybe they did realize just how much you did truly love them, and they did change or grow up for you, that’s great, and I truly hope you are happy because love is love, not a game.
It truly does suck because sometimes it can totally feel like love is a game, but the only time it actually is, is when its NOT LOVE. You may feel "in love" or think you are, but you love the idea of it, not them. Because how can you truly love someone who is playing you like a game, never showing you the actual love you truly deserve?
Love is so much more than a game, it's life, it's respect, it's loving yourself before you can even say you love someone else. If you are allowing someone to play this game, you probably need to sit down and ask yourself if you love you more, because that is the first step. The second is, we need to stop mistaking intimacy for love. That's probably the biggest issue hands down, because everyone wants to feel connected and comforted to someone, so intimacy is the easiest way, because lets face it, everyone is looking for a piece, but when you mistake a physical act for love, then mentally you are totally misleading your heart and that's what got you into this game of what you are mistaking for love in the first place.
Love is deep rooted, it's so much more than being intimate, yes, that's one correlation to it, but love is being your whole self and they love you even more because of it, when they look at you and smile for no reason, and they want to be in your life however they can. Love is climbing mountains and actually making it to the top with that person, love is mutually understood, it's guarded, and it's a secret that is only shared between two people, it's laughing in the dark for no reason, it's fun, it's hard as shit, it's a lifetime of trials and doubts, but also so respected that no matter what happens there is no start or finish because it never was a game, because love has no ending.
I may or may not have experienced it for myself, but these are just my thoughts on what it is or could be all about. So stop playing the game with someone you think you love, and just be with the one that makes you laugh, and smile, and makes you feel so comfortable that you can sleep with them snuggled up all night long like your very own teddy bear, and because every part of your being knows its real.