Expectations of Perfection.

Ever feel like people just expect you to be perfect LIKE ALL THE TIME? Because yeah, you do care about not only your perception, about everything, so you try your hardest to make everyone happy, because you are a doer, and care so so much. But did you ever think that you are just setting the bar so damn high that you're leaving no room for failure? And I wouldn't even say failure, it’s more like errors. And If you do mess up, that perception of being so damn perfect is all of a sudden now a perception of an asshole, of someone who doesn't care, because at that point people are only focusing on your flaws because they HAD that expectation of your perfection.

Expectations. There it is. 

People expect someone that cares, who tries, who constantly does their best, who is always there for others, who loves, who is always kind, sweet, nice and helpful, someone who always has all the answers, who is beautiful, who has an amazing heart, and who never says no, to always be PERFECT! 

When in all reality they aren’t, and then you end up disappointing someone because you failed their perception of you, and you basically let them down by not being flawless. 

But hate to break it to you EXPECTERS... WE HAVE FLAWS, we make mistakes, and we mess up! Hell people who are kind, sweet, and have a heart have been through more trials than you could even imagine, that’s part of why we do care so much about our perception. But at what point does Perception of perfection turn into Expectations? 

I mean this can even relate to social media for instance. EVERYONE shows their perfection via social media, so when someone meets you in reality, you failed their perception of you, because how can someone literally look as amazing as they do on Instagram in real life? Shit, if I could walk around with a snap-chat filter every day in my own real life, I would feel totally perfect! It’s really sad, because I believe that everyone has good and bad qualities, and no one is perfect, and if you think there is such a thing, then you really need a reality check.

We need to make mistakes, because if we didn't, we wouldn't grow and learn from them.  I totally believe that life is all about the beauty in living in the realness of it, and not having to worry about trying to live up to someone’s perception and expectations of you, because someone who truly knows you will not expect you to be a certain way, they will understand that you are a human, and that you do have flaws. Flaws are what make us who we are, and our beauty isn't just what’s on the outside, how long our eyelashes are, or how expensive our makeup and purses are, its deep rooted, true beauty is inside your heart, and even if you have the biggest heart in the world doesn't mean that you are PERFECT! 

People need to stop expecting kind people to be kind, and to not lose it or to keep composure all the time, because everyone breaks down and feels insecure at some moment or another. Even the meanest people can change your perception of them by doing something nice. Think about that.

I think perception of perfection is bull and we need to stop take a deep breath and understand that the only thing we can and should perceive in this life is change. People change their hearts, change their minds, change their looks, we grow up and grow old. So to expect anything is absurd, so something like perfection is totally ridiculous! An assumption is only something that is truth inside your own mind, and when you finally see the reality of it, you're going to end up completely disappointed!

True beauty is looking at the ocean, or the mountains, of course you can enhance its beauty by adding an edit, but does that change it? A mountain will still be a mountain, and the ocean will still be the ocean, and no matter what edit makes them look perfect, it’s the change in the tides, and the waves, and the rocks and bumps are the flaws that make them exactly what they are. So if you expect to look at the ocean or mountains with that same perfect enhancement in real life, you will be let down, and your perception of its perfection will only disappoint you, but if you look at it for the true beauty it actually is, you will see something breathtaking, it will make you feel astonished. 

So enjoy the realness in life, understand that the most seemingly perfect people in your eyes are the most flawed, and the most beautiful people are not the ones who look the best, if we can get past everyone's expectations of perfection, I think we can all find true happiness within ourselves. 

I myself am not perfect, far from it, and I’ll be the first to admit it. I make mistakes, and constantly break my own heart, but that's life, and I would rather live real than fake. Facebook, Instagram, and Snap-chat are a fun escape from reality, but I love the realness of sitting and talking to someone in person, to feel real touch, to see someone’s smile change, to actually be in real places than just looking at them through an image. I love to feel the warm campfire, smell the wood burning, taste the bbq sauce, the mist of the ocean waves in the breeze, and breathe in the clean fresh mountain air when you take a deep breath. The more you focus on the reality of people, places and things, the less you will expect, because you will come to realize that no matter the challenges, rocky bumps in the roads, or flaws, that living without any expectations you will see the true beauty in life and to you, that's the definition of perfect.