Social Media Life is NOT Real Life.
Social media lives only portray what society desires to display. Think about that. In real life, you cannot portray it the way you want it to be displayed. You can perceive to be a certain kind of person, but reality always presents itself one way or another. You might have control over how you look, what you have, and how you handle challenges and trials, but you sure as hell cannot edit and display parts and pieces of what you want your life look like in reality. We all have secrets, and that’s just a part of keeping things to ourselves confidentially. Not everything in our life needs to be publicized. Privacy is crucial to our beings. Some of the kindest people are going through the hardest trials no one knows about, and some of the meanest people are actually really kind inside. So it’s never safe to judge a person by their persona, just as you should never judge a person based off of their "Highlight Reel" Facebook or Instagram life display. I don't think anyone should judge anyone period. But if you want to know a person, don't assume you have them figured out based off of what they post. AND DO NOT GOOGLE THEM. That only causes more questions and doubts. Because hate to break it to you, but the internet is not real, its an escape from reality. Hints virtual reality.
But imagine if real life was like your Instagram feed or Facebook profile. We would all be happy great people right? Always traveling, doing the things we love, not having any type of real life issues at hand. Walking around day to day looking like a Snap Chat filter. We would all look perfect right?! Sheesh, sometimes I feel like people just go places and do things just to post them for others to see. Instead of living for their family and self, they are only living for others to see. At what point did it become so important for everyone, yes even that cousin you never met, to know some of the good everything’s in your "life." I mean honestly, how many people do you truly know and associate with in everyday real life anyway? Probably not as many as you are living for on social media. I mean, is it truly that important for your old elementary friend you shared gushers with on the playground, that you lost touch with when you went to middle school, to stop your real life for? Just to show them via social media exactly what you are doing in the moment you are in? You're missing out on the actual people your sharing that real life moment in time with. So actually Social Media is making us look like great human beings, but also tearing apart our real relationships because we focus so much on what people in our social media lives think.
Imagine if real life was only highlight reels, of your perfect family, the perfect kids, and the fun events. Gosh wouldn't you feel the pressure then? That’s exactly what is happening right now.
Social media should be taken lightly. Not everything you see is what it is, and you cannot judge someones entire life based off of only what they portray you to see. If everyone could do that, in real life, we would be without flaw. But flaws and imperfections are what make life raw and real.
Our struggles, we don’t sit there and post on social media. I mean unless you are begging for sympathy and posting pictures of your trials, and most of us aren’t. But if we truly did post all of our daily trials and storms in our lives, that would only make us NORMAL PEOPLE.
I'm not in any way bashing this modern day and age technology. It’s astonishing. And I myself have witnessed so much love and positivity via social media. That's what gives me hope. I think we just need to be mindful and make better choices with what we have access too. Be a leader, and show our kids better. And damn it, put down our phones while we are at family dinner, or on a date. Be respectful to people who post things online. Stop the hating and mean comments just to make yourself feel better. Jealousy and hate are real life issues virtually or not. Just because you say and do something behind a screen, doesn’t mean it won’t affect someones reality. The more we spread kindness and love virtually or not, we truly do have the power to make a difference. Like and share in real life, not only via social media and you'll have just as many friends in reality.
Written By: Tiffany Bales
But imagine if real life was like your Instagram feed or Facebook profile. We would all be happy great people right? Always traveling, doing the things we love, not having any type of real life issues at hand. Walking around day to day looking like a Snap Chat filter. We would all look perfect right?! Sheesh, sometimes I feel like people just go places and do things just to post them for others to see. Instead of living for their family and self, they are only living for others to see. At what point did it become so important for everyone, yes even that cousin you never met, to know some of the good everything’s in your "life." I mean honestly, how many people do you truly know and associate with in everyday real life anyway? Probably not as many as you are living for on social media. I mean, is it truly that important for your old elementary friend you shared gushers with on the playground, that you lost touch with when you went to middle school, to stop your real life for? Just to show them via social media exactly what you are doing in the moment you are in? You're missing out on the actual people your sharing that real life moment in time with. So actually Social Media is making us look like great human beings, but also tearing apart our real relationships because we focus so much on what people in our social media lives think.
Imagine if real life was only highlight reels, of your perfect family, the perfect kids, and the fun events. Gosh wouldn't you feel the pressure then? That’s exactly what is happening right now.
Social media should be taken lightly. Not everything you see is what it is, and you cannot judge someones entire life based off of only what they portray you to see. If everyone could do that, in real life, we would be without flaw. But flaws and imperfections are what make life raw and real.
Our struggles, we don’t sit there and post on social media. I mean unless you are begging for sympathy and posting pictures of your trials, and most of us aren’t. But if we truly did post all of our daily trials and storms in our lives, that would only make us NORMAL PEOPLE.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where nothing really is private anymore. The second we are in a relationship, it’s not official until its Facebook official. Am I Right? But does it really have to be that way? Also, is social media causing these relationships to be doomed from the start?
Think about trust. I mean is the reason trust is such a big issue today due to everyone having access to the entire population in the palm of their hand? It makes sense to me. Everyone is always looking for bigger and better, so when they see a beautiful woman or man on social media they admire them on there. Unlike before social media, when we were back in Elementary School, what we saw is what we got. We had to choose a crush that's right there in front of us in person, let alone get to choose from the whole damn entire population. I mean now a days the possibilities are endless. So I can't help but wonder, is Social Media the main reason for infidelity today?
And think about jealousy. There were always those mean girls in high school that were prettier and had everything you didn't. But you only had to see them in English Lit, so it wasn't like they ruined your whole entire day. But now, with social media, these women are posting their perfect cars, homes, husbands, and showing off everything to everyone. Instead of spreading kindness, encouragement and love, they show people these narcissistic egos, and it's only showing our children that's all that is important in life. I mean even now, does anyone ever pick up the phone and actually talk to each other? NOPE. We text instead. We are living in a virtual world and it only causes more confusion in reality. I truly believe that people are abusing social media. The more we are aware of what is going on the more we can consciously make efforts to live in the world we are actually in, because life itself is not a movie or video game.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not criticizing it entirely. I myself have social media accounts. I think it’s great to be able to keep up with friends and family. To post positivity and share the love. I myself have also been totally guilty of posting the infamous SELFIE. But Why? Why is it that important to show everyone a picture of yourself? Have we all become that shallow? I mean seriously. Or do we just post for ourselves? I mean how many of you are guilty of looking at your own profile just to admire. Maybe that's it. Maybe we want to remember our lives, because this is our way of keeping record of it. And that's a great thing. But no one wants to remember us for our selfies. So we should all try to keep those to a minimum, if that. Yes. Even me.
I believe we have the power to make a difference via social media. But right now our children are doing horrible things because they have access basically to the entire world through it. People are meeting online and developing trust with someone they never even met. I have seen the news, and it worries me that its creating a false persona to actual real life. Anyone can be anything and anyone via social media. That's the issue. I mean hello Catfish. But did anyone ever stop and think that anyone can be anything they set their mind on if they believe that in real life. Our kids are going to be doomed because they aren't going to know the difference between real and not real and that terrifies me.
Think about trust. I mean is the reason trust is such a big issue today due to everyone having access to the entire population in the palm of their hand? It makes sense to me. Everyone is always looking for bigger and better, so when they see a beautiful woman or man on social media they admire them on there. Unlike before social media, when we were back in Elementary School, what we saw is what we got. We had to choose a crush that's right there in front of us in person, let alone get to choose from the whole damn entire population. I mean now a days the possibilities are endless. So I can't help but wonder, is Social Media the main reason for infidelity today?
And think about jealousy. There were always those mean girls in high school that were prettier and had everything you didn't. But you only had to see them in English Lit, so it wasn't like they ruined your whole entire day. But now, with social media, these women are posting their perfect cars, homes, husbands, and showing off everything to everyone. Instead of spreading kindness, encouragement and love, they show people these narcissistic egos, and it's only showing our children that's all that is important in life. I mean even now, does anyone ever pick up the phone and actually talk to each other? NOPE. We text instead. We are living in a virtual world and it only causes more confusion in reality. I truly believe that people are abusing social media. The more we are aware of what is going on the more we can consciously make efforts to live in the world we are actually in, because life itself is not a movie or video game.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not criticizing it entirely. I myself have social media accounts. I think it’s great to be able to keep up with friends and family. To post positivity and share the love. I myself have also been totally guilty of posting the infamous SELFIE. But Why? Why is it that important to show everyone a picture of yourself? Have we all become that shallow? I mean seriously. Or do we just post for ourselves? I mean how many of you are guilty of looking at your own profile just to admire. Maybe that's it. Maybe we want to remember our lives, because this is our way of keeping record of it. And that's a great thing. But no one wants to remember us for our selfies. So we should all try to keep those to a minimum, if that. Yes. Even me.
I believe we have the power to make a difference via social media. But right now our children are doing horrible things because they have access basically to the entire world through it. People are meeting online and developing trust with someone they never even met. I have seen the news, and it worries me that its creating a false persona to actual real life. Anyone can be anything and anyone via social media. That's the issue. I mean hello Catfish. But did anyone ever stop and think that anyone can be anything they set their mind on if they believe that in real life. Our kids are going to be doomed because they aren't going to know the difference between real and not real and that terrifies me.
I remember the days without it. Having real friendships, and relationships. Not trying to impress everyone I knew in my entire lifetime all at the same time. I would choose those days every time if I had the choice. I myself enjoy seeing people face to face. Hearing their voices. Feeling real touch. Seeing someone smile, not just an emoji face. Spending real time with friends and family. Call me old fashioned. Maybe I am skeptical and rigid but a lot of these things are not happening anymore because virtual reality is making it so easy for people to live vir-tu-ally.
I'm not in any way bashing this modern day and age technology. It’s astonishing. And I myself have witnessed so much love and positivity via social media. That's what gives me hope. I think we just need to be mindful and make better choices with what we have access too. Be a leader, and show our kids better. And damn it, put down our phones while we are at family dinner, or on a date. Be respectful to people who post things online. Stop the hating and mean comments just to make yourself feel better. Jealousy and hate are real life issues virtually or not. Just because you say and do something behind a screen, doesn’t mean it won’t affect someones reality. The more we spread kindness and love virtually or not, we truly do have the power to make a difference. Like and share in real life, not only via social media and you'll have just as many friends in reality.
Written By: Tiffany Bales