The Definition of Love.
Ever feel like people try to influence you to believe what love actually is, what it should be, how it should feel, and what it is or is not based on their own version of it? My understanding is that love is special and its something real and true, because it's really only a feeling felt. I mean have you ever actually looked up the actual definition of it? The definition of Love in the dictionary is a noun that is an intense feeling of deep affection. And then its followed by the verb, which is to feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. So i'm a bit confused as to why people are so damn afraid to Love since the definition speaks for itself because we are all performing love actions, only we're not expressing them. Is that the problem here?
And I'm sure you have all heard the famous "Love is patient, love is kind" scripture, that comes straight from the bible as the bibles definition of what love means. Which is another analogy as to what love should be. Please don't get me wrong, it's totally amazingly beautiful and legitly spoken, and when we love someone, yes we should treat them in that way, and as a woman of god, I totally get it, but it's kind of generic, and I believe that love should NEVER be generic.
So when did attachment become so unattached, and when did feelings become just doings. Are we all just avoiding love to not allow anyone to make us feel an intense feeling inside, and do we honestly have control over our feelings? Because I can guarantee everyone has these feelings, but no one wants to label them as love because they are so damn afraid of it. What is honestly so horrific about love anyways? It doesn't walk around with a butcher knife that stabs you in the back until you bleed out or anything like people seem to think it does. Why do people think that love is some type of murderer of the soul? I mean really, to love is something to cherish, because these feelings never go away, unlike people that do.
I believe that everyone wants to be loved at the end of the day, but nobody wants to admit it because we are so messed up as to what it actually is thanks to EVERYONE'S explanation of it. And just because someone tells you that love is rare, shouldn't mean you should automatically believe that. Or if they say that love should be a specific type of way doesn't mean that it's exactly what they say it is right? Because all love is is an intense feeling of deep affection, and inside our hearts, minds, souls and bodies, that can be so many different things. So the only thing you really can do is to find the answer inside of yourself. Right?
But people will still say that love is getting through life together, working through the challenges, having children, being best friends, and doing nice things for one another, which are all valid things. But these are just everyday possessions that are kind of of mediocre, not in any way explaining any type of intense deep feeling of affection, because they are only Love Actions.
So at what point does the Noun of Love also meet the Verb of it in an actual loving relationship? That's where I bring in the word rare, because a lot of us are actually only living in the verb of love completely missing the noun of it in our own lives. The word Love itself is a NOUN, so why is it always mistaken by the VERB? Does this make sense? Let me further explain.
The verb meaning of love is just an action, not a feeling felt, and society says, if you can do all of those things and make it together, then the two of you are totally in love. But to me, that is only a piece of the Love puzzle, because yes, I do believe that when we love someone we should want to do things for them, but when we are IN LOVE with someone, all that stuff doesn't matter, because at the end of the day all you need is them, not what they do for you right?
So how truthfully can we be bad at love? I mean, is it because we suck at our own feelings? I think inside everyone loves someone the noun way, so to think that you can be bad at it doesn't make any sense to me at all. Maybe we are bad at the verb version of it because we suck at the affection, and at all of these doings of love that society puts into our heads. Because we all see that adorable couple on Instagram looking so happy and in love, wishing we had something like that, when in all reality inside their hearts they are numb, feeling nothing inside because they never truly loved one another, they only simulated it because they became obligated too. And the ones that truly are in love, aren't on social media bragging about it, because no one else matters. That's the love verb I want with someone.
So when did everyone stop loving? And are we just displacing the definition of Love into only a verb? Because its easier? But, really is it that tragic to love someone? I mean yeah, I could totally see how it would be something to steer clear from because the chance of loosing it, because when you do open your heart to someone there is a possibility that they can break it. But why avoid feeling something magnificent, when no matter what, there will always be a time in your life when you are going to get hurt anyway right?
Besides, I totally believe that everyone has their own definition of Love anyway, so its impossible to be bad at it, because our feelings are so different, they are real and true to ourselves, the reason we call Love a noun, and that's what makes the word itself so hard to even describe. But I will try here for you.
To me, the definition of Love is an intense feeling towards someone that captures your whole heart and soul with only their eyes. A forceful feeling that rushes from your head to your toes inside of your whole being when you see them smile. The feeling of not knowing how you even lived a second without them this whole damn time, that it actually makes you want to cry tears, not sad ones, happy ones, like how does that even make sense right? You can't even wrap your own mind around it because there isn't even a logical explanation to how you feel, its just right there inside of your heart. Something about it leaves a mark on your heart with a permanent indentation to your soul, changing your entire life forever. Sometimes they stay, and sometimes they go, but no matter where they are in your life, the intense feeling never truly goes away. It lingers on, and you can't help it because you only want to see them smile. You would do anything for them because nothing else matters, even if its letting it go, and its totally baffling, making you feel completely incomplete without them. So you go through every motion of its course because you know that once you get to its actual destination, that it will be there waiting for you with open arms. I believe that love has no ending, and the destination is only the beginning to a lifetime of endless pure love with the one that is meant for you. Not the one you are obligated to love, just functioning these love actions to make you believe that you actually are in love. Its deeper than that, and that is why they say its rare, but I believe in it because I have seen it first hand, and have felt the noun version of it. My definition of love is neither a noun or a verb, because its not just a word, its powerful, its the true meaning of life.
So I say live a little, go all in, sink or swim, do what you will, and never leave anything left unsaid or undone. Because at the end of the day, its YOU you have to live with on the inside, and its YOUR heart, and YOUR soul. Everyone else telling you what you should or shouldn't do with YOUR life, are only your biggest disappointments. The hardest thing you'll have to live with is regret, and trust me regret hurts a hell of a lot more than heartbreak. Regretting never telling someone that you love them will haunt you like a ghost for the rest of your life. But telling someone you love them can only make your life so much happier, or yea you could face rejection, but rejection is a hell of a lot easier to face than regret. So don't let anyone force you to conceal what you truly feel deep inside your heart and soul, because life is too short, and although the noun of love has no ending, the verb of it does. Always Remember that.
And I'm sure you have all heard the famous "Love is patient, love is kind" scripture, that comes straight from the bible as the bibles definition of what love means. Which is another analogy as to what love should be. Please don't get me wrong, it's totally amazingly beautiful and legitly spoken, and when we love someone, yes we should treat them in that way, and as a woman of god, I totally get it, but it's kind of generic, and I believe that love should NEVER be generic.
So when did attachment become so unattached, and when did feelings become just doings. Are we all just avoiding love to not allow anyone to make us feel an intense feeling inside, and do we honestly have control over our feelings? Because I can guarantee everyone has these feelings, but no one wants to label them as love because they are so damn afraid of it. What is honestly so horrific about love anyways? It doesn't walk around with a butcher knife that stabs you in the back until you bleed out or anything like people seem to think it does. Why do people think that love is some type of murderer of the soul? I mean really, to love is something to cherish, because these feelings never go away, unlike people that do.
I believe that everyone wants to be loved at the end of the day, but nobody wants to admit it because we are so messed up as to what it actually is thanks to EVERYONE'S explanation of it. And just because someone tells you that love is rare, shouldn't mean you should automatically believe that. Or if they say that love should be a specific type of way doesn't mean that it's exactly what they say it is right? Because all love is is an intense feeling of deep affection, and inside our hearts, minds, souls and bodies, that can be so many different things. So the only thing you really can do is to find the answer inside of yourself. Right?
But people will still say that love is getting through life together, working through the challenges, having children, being best friends, and doing nice things for one another, which are all valid things. But these are just everyday possessions that are kind of of mediocre, not in any way explaining any type of intense deep feeling of affection, because they are only Love Actions.
So at what point does the Noun of Love also meet the Verb of it in an actual loving relationship? That's where I bring in the word rare, because a lot of us are actually only living in the verb of love completely missing the noun of it in our own lives. The word Love itself is a NOUN, so why is it always mistaken by the VERB? Does this make sense? Let me further explain.
The verb meaning of love is just an action, not a feeling felt, and society says, if you can do all of those things and make it together, then the two of you are totally in love. But to me, that is only a piece of the Love puzzle, because yes, I do believe that when we love someone we should want to do things for them, but when we are IN LOVE with someone, all that stuff doesn't matter, because at the end of the day all you need is them, not what they do for you right?
So how truthfully can we be bad at love? I mean, is it because we suck at our own feelings? I think inside everyone loves someone the noun way, so to think that you can be bad at it doesn't make any sense to me at all. Maybe we are bad at the verb version of it because we suck at the affection, and at all of these doings of love that society puts into our heads. Because we all see that adorable couple on Instagram looking so happy and in love, wishing we had something like that, when in all reality inside their hearts they are numb, feeling nothing inside because they never truly loved one another, they only simulated it because they became obligated too. And the ones that truly are in love, aren't on social media bragging about it, because no one else matters. That's the love verb I want with someone.
So when did everyone stop loving? And are we just displacing the definition of Love into only a verb? Because its easier? But, really is it that tragic to love someone? I mean yeah, I could totally see how it would be something to steer clear from because the chance of loosing it, because when you do open your heart to someone there is a possibility that they can break it. But why avoid feeling something magnificent, when no matter what, there will always be a time in your life when you are going to get hurt anyway right?
Besides, I totally believe that everyone has their own definition of Love anyway, so its impossible to be bad at it, because our feelings are so different, they are real and true to ourselves, the reason we call Love a noun, and that's what makes the word itself so hard to even describe. But I will try here for you.
To me, the definition of Love is an intense feeling towards someone that captures your whole heart and soul with only their eyes. A forceful feeling that rushes from your head to your toes inside of your whole being when you see them smile. The feeling of not knowing how you even lived a second without them this whole damn time, that it actually makes you want to cry tears, not sad ones, happy ones, like how does that even make sense right? You can't even wrap your own mind around it because there isn't even a logical explanation to how you feel, its just right there inside of your heart. Something about it leaves a mark on your heart with a permanent indentation to your soul, changing your entire life forever. Sometimes they stay, and sometimes they go, but no matter where they are in your life, the intense feeling never truly goes away. It lingers on, and you can't help it because you only want to see them smile. You would do anything for them because nothing else matters, even if its letting it go, and its totally baffling, making you feel completely incomplete without them. So you go through every motion of its course because you know that once you get to its actual destination, that it will be there waiting for you with open arms. I believe that love has no ending, and the destination is only the beginning to a lifetime of endless pure love with the one that is meant for you. Not the one you are obligated to love, just functioning these love actions to make you believe that you actually are in love. Its deeper than that, and that is why they say its rare, but I believe in it because I have seen it first hand, and have felt the noun version of it. My definition of love is neither a noun or a verb, because its not just a word, its powerful, its the true meaning of life.
So I say live a little, go all in, sink or swim, do what you will, and never leave anything left unsaid or undone. Because at the end of the day, its YOU you have to live with on the inside, and its YOUR heart, and YOUR soul. Everyone else telling you what you should or shouldn't do with YOUR life, are only your biggest disappointments. The hardest thing you'll have to live with is regret, and trust me regret hurts a hell of a lot more than heartbreak. Regretting never telling someone that you love them will haunt you like a ghost for the rest of your life. But telling someone you love them can only make your life so much happier, or yea you could face rejection, but rejection is a hell of a lot easier to face than regret. So don't let anyone force you to conceal what you truly feel deep inside your heart and soul, because life is too short, and although the noun of love has no ending, the verb of it does. Always Remember that.